This is the comprehensive guide – How to Eat Pussy Like a Rockstar! It teaches you all the tips, tricks, and techniques to become a pussy-eating champion.
You will get more than 27.000 words of juicy tips and tricks.
You might be thinking: “27.000 words about eating pussy? That’s insane! This isn’t exactly rocket science.”
True, this isn’t rocket science. If you just want to get a few pointers on how to eat a girl out, that’s cool – this book properly isn’t for you then. You should go read a few blogposts or watch a Ponhub-tutorial like this one.
However, if you want to learn how to suck, lick and tease your partner to the most mind-blowing orgasms of her entire life, then this is what you’ve been looking for.
You will discover the secrets to winning over any woman with the cunnilingus skills of a god with chapter after chapter of tips and tricks that you can start implementing tonight. Great for experienced lovers and beginners—everyone can learn something new from this definitive guide.
With down-to-earth language and easy to master tips and tricks, you’ll be eating pussy like a serious Rockstar in no time. With this definitive guide you’ll learn more than just simple tongue tricks for how to eat pussy. We cover everything from foreplay to roleplay and hygiene to ensure that you get the girl. Of course, we’ll also show you a wide variety of tongue techniques, over 20 positions for eating pussy and loads ideas for extra kinky experimentation.
So, what are you waiting for? Start educating yourself with this how-to book and start reaping the benefits today. We guarantee your dates will keep coming back for more, which will boost your confidence and improve your love life!
Contents of How to eat pussy like a Rockstar!
1. The female orgasm
Discover how the female orgasm differs from the male’s, and learn techniques to help her climax in various ways. Understanding these distinctions can enhance your intimate experiences.
2. The female anatomy
Explore the intricacies of the female body, learning how each part can be stimulated to provide pleasure. This comprehensive overview goes beyond the obvious, offering insights even seasoned enthusiasts might find enlightening.
3. Taste and texture
Every woman’s unique taste and texture can influence the experience. Gain insights into appreciating these differences, ensuring both partners find enjoyment and comfort.
4. Foreplay for Oral sex
Studies suggest women benefit from at least 20 minutes of foreplay. Discover effective techniques to make this time engaging, setting the stage for a more satisfying encounter.
5. Techniques
Enhance your oral skills with a variety of actionable tips and methods. These strategies can add excitement and depth to your intimate moments.
6. Advanced Techniques
Ready to elevate your game? These advanced methods can intensify pleasure and showcase your prowess, leaving a lasting impression.
7. Variety and Positions
Did you know there are over 20 positions for oral pleasure? Explore these options to diversify your experiences and discover new favorites.
8. Role Play
Introducing role play can add a fun and sensual dimension to your intimacy. Learn how to incorporate scenarios that help both partners feel relaxed and excited.estherperel.com
9. Preparation
Proper preparation can prevent awkward moments. From setting the mood to personal grooming, these tips ensure your date nights are smooth and enjoyable.
10. Warnings, Common Problems & Health Considerations
Being informed about potential issues and health considerations ensures a safe and pleasurable experience for both partners. This section covers essential information to keep in mind.
A word from the author – Amy J. Fillmore
Guys, I wrote this Guide just for you with no fluff and chocked full of actionable tips to make your girl start cumming tonight. I was inspired to share my knowledge about how to eat pussy after meeting the nicest guys in the world who were just clueless in bed.
There’s really nothing sadder than meeting a guy who is afraid to eat your pussy. I realized that these guys just need a little coaching and they’re easily able to become experts in cunnilingus.
Luckily, I’ve had some seriously mind-blowing experiences with both older men (and women!) who taught me how to give and receive pleasure like a pro. I’m so thrilled to be able to share these useful tips and tricks with you to help you be the total rockstar that you deserve to be.
So, read this book with an open mind and practice, practice, practice. I guarantee that you’ll learn a ton of new tricks and your partner will be very pleasantly surprised when you try them out on her!
🤘 Tip
The Guide is targeted towards men because they don’t have the equipment to practice on like bisexual or lesbian women.
But, that’s not to say that women can’t also learn some new tips and tricks from this book. Everyone can benefit from better pussy eating skills, so if you’re a woman, please do not feel excluded.
Share this book with your loved ones, or read it yourself to learn more about your own body.
Introduction: Your initiation into the pussy eating hall of fame
Eating pussy gives you power. No seriously, like power of the ancients-type power. So many dudes out there are wasting their time obsessing about why girls don’t give them the time of day. But, the answer is simple. They’re just not eating enough pussy.
Eating pussy like a real rockstar makes you nearly invincible. It doesn’t matter if you’re short, slightly overweight (hell, severely overweight), balding, or even old. It’s scientifically proven that having orgasms releases endorphins.
Do you know what also causes an endorphin-like response? Heroin. Heroin is one of the most addictive drugs known to man. In other words, giving girls great orgasms is like getting them hooked on heroin—only you’re not getting them hooked on drugs. You’re getting them hooked on you.
There is a secret sauce to pussy licking, it’s true. It’s not necessarily so much that you’re expert level at it (though that helps). Instead, it’s the most important that you love it. Yes, you have to love eating pussy. You need to be dreaming about eating pussy. You need to be moving your tongue in circles on the roof of your mouth practicing how to lick pussy.
And when you finally get a sumptuous juicy pussy in front of your face, you need to savor that shit with all the passion that you would a 50 year old malt whiskey. Yeah, you get the picture. Don’t just down it all at once. Take your time. Savor it. And above all, enjoy it.
Enjoy that one-of-a-kind pussy like a juicy peach. Take that woman’s bum in your hands. Squeeze it. Take a moment just to look at her pussy—just gaze upon it in all its glory. Say it out loud, “Mmmmm girl, your pussy is so fine.”
But, you can’t just say these words like an actor in a play. You have to mean it. You have to appreciate the uniqueness of every pussy. You have to find the beauty in them. These are individual snowflakes we’re talking about here. Each pussy looks completely different and they’re all just waiting for you to savor them.
Savoring a pussy means making it quiver, making it gasp, and most importantly making it cum. Don’t be satisfied when your girl cums once. Don’t be a noob and be like, “Ok, I’m done now. Do me now!” That is so lame.
No, dude, you’re expert level. Make her cum again. Make her cum with your mouth until she insists you fuck her. Make her scream and plead with you to fuck her. And even then, maybe you won’t fuck her quite yet. You are the master of her pleasure. You control her bliss.
You see, girls aren’t used to being treated this way. Guys, on average, are actually pretty clueless about how to please a woman. This puts you at a unique advantage. You’re about to learn exactly how to please a woman orally in this guide. This rockstar-pussy-eating ability will make women worship you like a golden god of sex.
Your competitors aren’t going to stand a snowball’s chance in hell. Sure, they might be muscular, or have the exact same bone structure as Brad Pitt, but girls aren’t going to care about that. Girls care about cumming every day. Hell, girls want to cum multiple times a day. You can do this!
Women want to be pampered. Giving a woman an orgasm means that you’re putting her needs before your own. You’re letting her get hers before you even think about getting yours. This is the ultimate for women.
Why? Women are used to giving lackluster blowjobs. They’re used to being jackhammered by guys they thought were cute, but turned out to be not so cute after they found out how inept they were in the sack. And even greater than that, society is kind of biased against women, let’s face it.
They have to spend extra time styling their long hair. They have to buy a bunch of skincare products and makeup and then spends hours a week applying it. They always try their best to look great. Shit, they even go through the obvious hell of wearing high heels just so you can bask in the sexiness of their perfectly poised legs.
And then they don’t even get quality orgasms. Can you believe that? This is a real injustice.But, you can do something about this—yes, you! It’s up to you to give women the orgasms that they deserve.
You and you alone have been tasked with making the women of this world cream and scream like they’re about to die. But, they don’t die. They just keep cumming. You are the hero of this story. It’s your time to shine.
Read on, brother, and learn the secrets of eating pussy like a rockstar. Your life is never going to be the same again.
Why oral sex is important
Oral sex is important to your overall health. Do you get cranky when you haven’t had an orgasm in a while? Hell yeah—so do women! If you’re in a relationship, giving your woman consistently amazing orgasms is going to drastically improve your entire relationship. It’s remarkable.
If you think your partner is often bitchy and cranky, just lay her down once a day and eat her pussy until she cums a few times. You absolutely will not believe that you’re dealing with the same woman. Orgasms melt women into creatures of pure bliss. She will worship you.
This isn’t some magical bullshit. Orgasms do everything from boosting immunity and regulating menstruation to releasing stress. Most importantly, though, orgasms make women happy.
Having an orgasm releases a shit-ton of the hormone oxytocin, which helps women to relax. In fact, one study found that 39% of women who masturbate do it in order to relax.
This means that just under half of the women in the world who masturbate aren’t necessarily doing it for sexual reasons. They’re doing it to relax. Woah.
And if that doesn’t have you convinced, another study out of the Netherlands found that when women orgasm the amygdala, which is responsible for fear and anxiety in the brain, registers little to no activity.
In other words, orgasms take away women’s worries. Orgasms are some powerful stuff.
Receiving & Giving
A lot of guys aren’t used to giving their woman oral pleasure, yet expect to get head pretty often. If you’re in a situation like this, you’re setting your relationship up to fail.
Whether you’re in a committed relationship, getting it on with a friend with benefits, or even enjoying multiple partners— if you’re not eating pussy, you’ve set yourself up to fail.
Sex is best enjoyed when it is shared, and no, this isn’t some gooey romantic shit about bonding. Though, having a connection during sex can be really hot. No, this is about getting your girl lubed up and relaxed enough to go wild.
Women’s bodies aren’t typically ready for sex until about 20 minutes into foreplay. This is physiological fact. It’s scientific. There is nothing ooey-gooey about it. If you want to have next level, mind blowing sex, you need to be eating pussy like a rockstar.
Eating pussy like a pro is what separates the men from the boys. Most women already know this, and if you happen to be with an inexperienced woman just give her time.
All it will take is one mind-blowing session of hot and steamy sex with a man who really knows what he’s doing and she’ll realize that you’re in the minor leagues.
You don’t want women to view you like this, right? Well, it’s time to start learning and practicing how to make women putty in your hands.
The Female Orgasm Is Different
The male and female orgasm is actually surprisingly similar. Yes, men usually ejaculate during orgasm, but women have the potential to also ejaculate through a g-spot orgasm.
And yes, women can have multiple orgasms, but so can some men. And after all, an orgasm is really just the pelvic floor muscles contracting in both men and women. So, why is it that reaching orgasm can be so different?
First off, men are visual animals. When a sexual image registers in the male brain, you’ll start to see visible signs of him being turned on. So, don’t let women give you flack over watching porn. This is science.
When you get turned on, the response is pretty obvious. Your dick gets hard. That’s because blood is rushing through your body to your cock. With women, it’s the same, but also a bit different.
Women also experience a rush of blood, but you won’t notice a difference in their genitals quite like with the penis. Instead, all of that blood pumping is helping to lubricate the vagina.
Lubrication of the vagina is absolutely key here. When a woman’s pussy is wet, it’s actually ready for sex. But, this can take up to 20 minutes for women. This isn’t as instantaneous as a male erection.
According to a study involving sex therapists, “adequate” sex should last at least 3 to 5 minutes. However, this isn’t counting the warmup phase. Women get turned with soft touches that increase in force gradually over time.
A lot of guys are pretty cool with having their dick totally taken care of from start to finish in just a few minutes. This is not at all the same with women.
Prepare yourself to touch a woman in an excruciatingly slow manner for at least 20 minutes to get her fully turned on. Yes, this means that your entire sexual encounter may end up lasting a good 25 to 35 minutes. She’s going to love you for this.
Learning exactly how the female body works will give you all the knowledge you need to touch and lick a woman to extreme pleasure. In fact, once word gets out about your crazy skills, you’ll probably have to beat the women off. You’re about to be the most popular guy in town.
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TL;DR – Too long; didn’t read. The most important things from How to eat pussy like a Rockstar!
So let’s recap all that we’ve learned in this final top 10 list of how to eat pussy like a rockstar:
1. Stay confident.
Maybe you’ve never eaten out a girl before and you’re rather inexperienced—that’s ok. Maintain a can-do mentality and your girl will feed off of your confidence. Confidence is sexy.
2. Go slow.
The number one mistake that guys make in any type of sexual encounter is going too fast. Women are sensitive and they need to be warmed up gradually. Soft, slow touches are always a must.
3. Commit to at least 20 minutes of foreplay
Research tells us that women take at least 20 minutes to be warmed up for sex. Therefore, be prepared to tease her for at least 20 minutes before you really start going to town on her pussy with oral sex, or before you begin with any vaginal or anal sex.
4. Make her cum before you cum. Every time.
Sometimes you might bust a nut before your woman gets a chance to cum. It happens to everyone. But do not let it become a habit. Make a habit out of letting women cum first. This is a habit that will serve you very well in life.
5. Practice safe sex.
Condoms, dental dams and STD testing are all a must. Protect yourself first.
6. Try different licking techniques
Every women is different, so if one technique doesn’t press her button in the right way, try another. There are plenty of techniques you can practice in chapter 6, so make sure you try them all at least once.
7. Try different positions
If you’re already pretty proficient with getting women off, things can tend to get a little run-of-the-mill. So, why not keep things hot with a variety of super sexy positions? Make sure you’ve tried all the positions from chapter 8!
8. Get kinky with BDSM, role plays, and more
A lot of women have an easier time relaxing (and orgasming) when they’re getting kinky. Don’t be afraid to try new things with your partner. Let your imagination roam free!
9. Always respect your partner
Every woman has different preferences and for some women, certain things are just off limits. So, whether she doesn’t like having her nipples touched, or she can’t stand to be fingered, respect her wishes. Always.
10. Practice makes perfect
Eating pussy is like learning to salsa. Every woman is different and you have to learn to read her responses and use your intuition to really eat pussy like a pro. Don’t get discouraged if this takes some time. Just keep practicing and enjoy the ride!
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The female orgasm: The mystery revealed
We’ve all seen those totally mismatched couples that have made us think, “How on earth did he get her? This dude is really not star-status in the looks department, but his woman is a total 10. Is it his personality? Is he super kind? Rich?”
Women know the answer.
That guy is giving his woman mind-blowing orgasms every day. He’s a total rockstar in bed. Shallow observations of men rate them on attractiveness or intelligence, but it’s serious pussy eating skills that separate the men from the boys.
The female orgasm is admittedly a bit mysterious. As opposed to men, who cum in a fairly straightforward manner, women can experience a wide variety of orgasms.
In fact, there are so many different ways that women can orgasm, that you may not even know all that she’s capable of.
Most women orgasm through clitoral stimulation, but can also have:
- Vaginal orgasms
- Gushing wet g-spot orgasms
- Blended orgasms
- And most importantly… Multiple orgasms
Go for the multiple orgasms, guys. You can never go wrong with a bunch of orgasms.
During sexual arousal a woman’s body undergoes some changes. The clitoris, inner lips, and the entire pelvic area swell and becomes engorged with blood.
The clitoris may stick out a little further from under the clitoral hood, as seen in the picture above, though this varies greatly from woman to woman.
Various muscles throughout the vagina, as well as the rest of the body, are going to contract and tighten as orgasm draws nears. Orgasm is the point when all of this pressure releases by a series of involuntary muscle contractions throughout the vagina, uterus and anus.
Yes, and the anus! “Two in the pink and one in the stink,” is a very wise proverb that shouldn’t be taken lightly.
⚠️ Warning
Not all women are into anal play.
Women describe the sensation of orgasming as an all-over feeling of lightness in the body that culminates in a strong blissful and tingly feelings in the clitoris.
Sometimes, the female orgasm can be so incredibly powerful that women can experience temporarily blurred vision, or numb sensations in their toes. Some women may scream out uncontrollably, while others remain silently transfixed on their pleasure.
All of this will vary from woman to woman, but it will also vary from orgasm to orgasm. Women are capable of a wide range of orgasms, so stay open to all the possibilities that lie ahead.
On a more serious note, female orgasm has been shown to increase blood flow to the brain, while also reducing sensitivity to pain and anxiety. Orgasms release endorphins and endorphins are a lot like natural morphine. Thus, we can deduce that orgasms are a bit like drugs. Afterall, they are quite addictive.
By giving your lady a hearty helping of orgasms on the regular, you’re helping her to stay happy and healthy. And for those of you in relationships, you’re going to get closer to your partner than ever by blowing her mind with frequent intense orgasms.
Who has time to argue when they’re orgasming all the time? That’s right, no one.
Whether you’re a man or a women, having an orgasm feels awesome. However, there are some noticeable differences between the sexes. The most important difference is that many women have the ability to orgasm multiple times.
As you already know, once you’ve orgasmed, you most likely need some downtime before you’re ready to go again. Many men may even find themselves completely knocked out after an orgasm and will fall right off to sleep. That’s because during ejaculation, the male brain secretes a cocktail of chemicals, which may make them more prone to sleepiness.
Women, on the other hand, are really just getting started with orgasm number one. This is why it’s vitally important for you to hold off on your own orgasm until your female partner has had at least one orgasm of her own.
Once you know exactly what makes your partner tick and you’re able to bring her to orgasm, you won’t want to stop with just one. Real rockstars in bed are able to make their partner orgasm over and over (and over) again.
The many beautiful O-faces
💡 Remember
If you cum prematurely and your partner hasn’t climaxed, power through and do not go straight to sleep. There is nothing that will frustrate a woman more than watching you get yours and then roll over and pass out. Sure, this might happen every once in awhile, but do not make a habit of it.
Stave off those feelings of weariness and either finger her, or lick her for as long as it takes to bring her to orgasm. If you came super early, it might take a while to get her off.
Your fingers may feel like they’ve reached their limits. Your mouth may go completely numb. But, you keep going and act like you’re totally into it. She won’t be able to cum if you’re acting like you’re not thoroughly enjoying the experience of satisfying her.
⚠️ Warning
Your partner may be capable of having multiple orgasms, but that doesn’t mean she’s always into it. Perhaps one was enough and she also feels tired out. You can always ask, “Do you want to cum again, baby?” and see how she’s feeling.
Read her mind
The first thing that you need to understand about the female orgasm, is that women need to feel relaxed in order to have one. The process of orgasming for women is incredibly mental. For men, visuals are the key. Guys like to watch porn, or see tits.
Women like to feel both physically and mentally safe and relaxed. Try dimming the lighting and playing it cool. One surefire way to get your woman out of her relaxation zone is to ask every few minutes, “Are you close? Did you cum yet?” Eeks!
Women also tend to zone out a bit when they’re starting to reach climax. So, if your partner wants to share a sexual fantasy, go with it. Many women fantasize in their minds when they’re getting ready to reach the Big-O as a way to mentally relax and get them over the edge into orgasm-land.
One study actually found that women who have more erotic thoughts during sex are more frequently able to reach orgasm.
So, help your lady friend out and talk a little dirty talk to her. No, don’t go full blown porno on her. Many women do not respond well to being called dirty little sluts (whereas some do!). Instead, focus on dirty talk that will make her feel hot and sexy.
Say things like, “Mmmm I am going to make you feel so fucking good. How many times do you want to cum, baby? Fuck, you’re so wet and juicy. I’m going to eat you for hours.”
Professor Alan Riley, a well-known sexpert, says that sexuality for women may be more emotionally driven than experts had previously thought.
“There’s been a lot of focus on the body and our physical responses,” Dr. Riley said, “but for many people, and women in particular, the mind plays an even more important role.”
“I can actually mentally give myself an orgasm. You know, sense memory is quite powerful.” -Lady Gaga
The one and only Lady Gaga
You may be surprised to hear that there are women who can orgasm by thinking alone. That’s right, some women don’t even need to be physically stimulated in order to reach orgasm.
Lady Gaga once told New York Magazine in an interview, “I don’t know if this is too much for your magazine, but I can actually mentally give myself an orgasm. You know, sense memory is quite powerful.”
So, if some women can orgasm without being touched, you can definitely give your partner mind-blowing orgasms with touch. With the female body, the sky is the limit.
⚠️ Warning
According to data from Planned Parenthood, about 30% of women have trouble reaching orgasm and about 80% have difficulty reaching orgasm from vaginal intercourse alone. So, even though clitoral stimulation can help, it may not be able to bring every woman to orgasm.
Therefore, if your partner isn’t able to climax, this doesn’t necessarily mean that you’re totally unskilled in the sex department.
Communication is key. Ask your partner how she typically orgasms and if you find out that she’s always had a problem, you may want to seek medical advice, as she could have thyroid disease, depression, diabetes, or FSD (female sexual dysfunction).
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Types of orgasms
Clitoral Orgasm
Most women orgasm through clitoral stimulation. This means that fingering or going down on your woman can really be the secret sauce to getting her off.
With a clitoral orgasm, intense feelings of pleasure culminate and spread from the clitoris throughout the pelvic region and sometimes throughout the entire body.
To give a woman a clitoral orgasm, you could go down on her, finger her, or use a vibrator. Hell, you could even rub your hard cock up against her clit really fast and make her cum.
You’re going to find that some women prefer light pressure on their clitoris, whereas others will be into stronger motions. Additionally, some women prefer to be stroked through their clitoral hood, while others are less sensitive and more open to direct clit touching.
Every woman is different, so ask her what makes her cum the best so that you can do it exactly the way she likes it.
Many women can achieve a clitoral orgasm with a couple of minutes if they’re touching themselves. Men who are experienced in the field can also achieve similarly fast results once they know just what types of touch their partner needs.
But why just stop with one clitoral orgasm? Many women can have multiple orgasms, so why not giver her a few clitoral orgasms with your fingers, then move south with your tongue for a few more? Then, you can move on to some vaginal orgasms during intercourse and maybe a blended orgasm for the grand finale. Yes, this is totally possible.
A vaginal orgasm begins in the vagina and spreads throughout the pelvic region and the body. Some women say that vaginal orgasms can feel more all-encompassing than clitoral orgasms, though less intense. Of course, this all depends on the person.
Whereas a clitoral orgasm can get going in as fast as a minute, a vaginal orgasm will take more time to build up. Some women take 20-25 minutes to achieve a vaginal orgasm, so be prepared to take your time to get her pussy off.
Of course, the famous g-spot orgasm is also a type of vaginal orgasm. G-spot orgasms are what get those notorious squirters squirting. A g-spot orgasm can make a woman’s body shake all over with super intense pleasure. And some women have such powerful sensations of total euphoria from these types of orgasms, that they have almost out of body type experiences.
So, if you’re into making women gush, you’ll want to perfect this method.
Whether you’re using your fingers, your dick, or a vibrator, it will still take up to 25 minutes to make your girl squirt.
The g-spot is located just behind the belly button, so in order to hit it you’ll have to arch your fingers inside at just the right angle. Additionally, using pillows under her bum and some planned positioning can get her in the right angle so that your dick can also hit her g-spot.
More on making her squirt in later chapters.
💡 Remember
Not all women are sensitive in their g-spots. Therefore, if you don’t get a reaction, don’t get discouraged. If you and your lady are interested to keep trying, just continue to experiment with the area and take your time. This isn’t a race.
Anal Orgasm
Scary anal porn has spread a lot of fear and misinformation about the act to both men and women. But, if you take proper care to clean the area, you’re not going to hit shit—don’t worry. In fact, one report showed that 94% of women who engaged in anal sex reached orgasm.
This is a way higher percentage than for vaginal sex or oral sex. So, if your partner is down, you should definitely make her orgasm through anal sex.
Ok, orgasming anally isn’t really an anal orgasm. Actually, you’re stimulating the g-spot and other vaginal nerves through the internal wall between the butthole and the pussy. But many women still have incredibly powerful orgasms with anal sex, or with anal sex and a combination of clitoral stimulation.
⚠️ Warning
Anal can really scare the shit out of some people (no, not literally). So, don’t push the topic with women who aren’t interested. There are plenty of women out there who dig it, so there’s no need to push those who aren’t. You’ll most likely just scare them away.
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Coming up: The female anatomy
In the next chapter you’ll be astonished to learn just how many different components are involved in female anatomy. Once you know what you’re working with, you’ll know even better how to work it.
The female anatomy: 26 erogenous zones you can tease to get her wet and wild!
How do you get your partner turned on? How much time does it take? Think back to your last few sexual encounters and try to estimate the time. Was it 5 minutes? 10 minutes?
Remember, it takes women much longer to get revved up than it does men. You may be rock hard and ready to go, but your female friend will probably need double that time or more to be wet and ready for you.
The most experienced lovers know that sex isn’t really about the end point. It’s about enjoying the ride. The longer you hold off on your own orgasm, the deeper and more intense it will be for you and your partner.
By focusing on your partner and allowing her to also reach her ultimate orgasm potential, you will transcend the mundane sex of lesser men. Women will be calling you wanting more and more.
And when they talk to their friends, they’re going to say that you’re “different” than all the rest. You really know what you’re doing in bed. You drive them wild!
So how long exactly are we talking about here to get women turned on? Well, many women can take up to 20 minutes to get fully aroused. You’re probably thinking, “What the hell am I supposed to do for 20 minutes?”
The answer: Plenty.
In this section we’ll cover 26 separate body parts that you can touch, tickle, tease, kiss, lick, or nibble to excite and stimulate your sexual partner. The key here is to tease your lady friend.
Make her beg for it. Make your sexual experience a total all-body experience for her that will keep her fantasising about you for days.
This is admittedly part anatomy lesson. But, don’t skip this chapter just to get to the “good stuff.” Remember, it’s crucial to know what you’re working with. You’ll be surprised just how interesting a pussy can be. There is way more going on down there than initially meets the eye.
So sit back and enjoy this illustrated erogenous zones anatomy guide and take notes! You’re going to be using this later!
The penis and the clitoris
The penis and the clitoris, not so different after all
Unless you were a Biology major, this may come as a shock. The penis and the clitoris are basically the same thing.
What?
Yes, you read correctly. You see, initially in the embryonic state, males and females are identical. By week 11, human fetuses start to differentiate by developing external sex organs. And even during differentiation, a lot of things look strikingly similar, as you can see in the diagram below.
Penis and clitoris similarities
We won’t bore you with the medical details, but suffice it to say that the clitoris and the penis are basically the same glans in a different form. Except of course, the clitoris is much more densely packed with nerves, giving it tremendous levels of sensitivity, as well as tremendous potential for super strong orgasms.
Once you realize that the clitoris actually isn’t all that different from your penis, you may feel more comfortable with the idea of working it. No, we don’t mean this in a gay way. Female anatomy is overall much different than men’s–after all women have uteruses and can bear children. Guys can’t do that.
What we mean is that the clitoris and the head of the penis developed out of the same type of tissue—tissue that is super sensitive, packed with nerves, and ready for sexual play.
So, as you can see, the clitoris actually isn’t a huge mystery after all. It’s the same thing you’ve got going on down there, only smaller, more discreet, and much more densely packed with nerve endings.
Although the clitoris is a bit like a tiny supercharged penis head, but that doesn’t mean that the clitoris necessarily enjoys the same type of stimulation.
But don’t worry, in this anatomy guide we’ll walk you through every bit and bob of the female form, as well as the best tips and tricks to drive her wild with your touch, as you work your way up to becoming a cunnilingus champ.
The vulva
The vulva includes all of the external organs that you can see outside a female’s body including the mons pubis, labia minora and majora, clitoris and the external openings of the urethra and the vagina.
The vulva only includes the external bits; nothing internal. A lot of people use the term vagina to refer to the entire kit and kaboodle, but vulva is actually the correct term. The vagina is really just the hole itself. The vulva is the entire outer area.
So, what can you do with a vulva? Well, first of all, don’t call it a vulva. Merely reference it in your mind as everything on the outside. It’s good to remember during foreplay not to start plunging inside the vagina with fingers, or other appendages until your partner is turned on and begging for it, which, again, should take up to 20 minutes.
To get your partner super turned on, we’ll cover each particular part in detail throughout this section.
🤘 Tip
You may want to have some lube handy, though saliva can also work well, as the friction of skin-on-skin action can be a bit discomforting for your female friend. With a little lube, you can glide all over her lady bits with ease.
The Mons Pubis
The technical name kind of sounds like a mountain on Mars, right? In a way, it’s a lot like a little mountain. The pubic mound is a nice little fuzzy (or non-fuzzy) mountain that signals the entryway into your female friend’s genital region.
Unfortunately, many men move right past it and ignore it altogether. Now, this is a missed opportunity, indeed.
The pubic mound is where pubic hair may or may not be present. Perhaps your partner has a robust bush of pubic hair, or is more detail-oriented and trims, shaves, or waxes the area. Whatever you find down there when you remove her knickers, don’t voice your preference.
Many a moronic man has taken the opportunity of first seeing a woman’s nether region as an opportunity to force his opinion on her body. Remember guys, it’s her body. Do not make any negative commentary about your partner’s body during a sexual encounter. This could be disastrous for your relationship.
Not looking for a relationship? That’s ok. Women tell their friends when men make them feel like complete garbage and word gets out real fast. Don’t be that guy. And if you’re in a relationship and not a pube-man, you can always talk about it later when you’re not having a sexual moment. Besides, try it. You might like it!
Pubes or no pubes, the pubic mound is a great place to get some foreplay action going. If your lady has pubic hair, this is a nice place to gently stroke. Slide your hand down into her underwear just a bit and gently tousle her pubic hair. Coupled with some kissing or nuzzling around the neck and ear area, a delicate Mons Pubis massage can do wonders.
Though, don’t go any further than the pubic mound. Take at least 3-5 minutes to slowly pet her fuzz. Don’t go any further. This will relax your partner. She’ll be thinking, “Whew, he’s not in a hurry. I can just relax!” and when females aren’t caught up in their minds about being forced to go too fast, they’re much more receptive to sexual arousal.
If you’re getting signals that she’s turned on like heavy breathing, moaning, or sighing, just gently graze across her clitoral hood and go back to touching her pubic mound, legs, hips, and belly area as if nothing happened. This type of teasing will drive her wild.
⚠️ Warning
If your lady shaves her pubic mound, she may be sensitive to upward strokes from the direction of her pussy to her navel. You’re probably equally sensitive to upward strokes on your freshly shaved face, right?
Use downward strokes in this area to go with the grain of the hair so that you don’t irritate her shaven mound.
The Front Commissure
The front commissure is the area just below the mons pubis. As you can see in the diagram, it’s the bit where the mons pubis meets the clitoral hood.
When you’re getting your woman all hot-and-bothered during foreplay, try putting some light pressure on the front commissure while stroking it with your thumb or fingers. The front commissure is the beginning of the shaft of the clitoris, so it is loaded with nerve endings.
Remember, the vast majority of the clitoris isn’t actually visible, as it is just under the clitoral hood. Therefore, stroking the front commissure is a sure fire way to get those clitoral nerve endings activated in a gentle and non-threatening way.
The really cool thing about the front commissure is that it is situated just next to the pelvic bone. This area is the perfect point to stimulate the internal portion of the clitoris. Once you’ve got your lady friend very worked up, you can start experimenting with heavier levels of pressure in this area.
When you find the pelvic bone, you can use sensual pulsing motions to gently grind the internal shaft of the clitoris against the pelvic bone. If she gives you reassuring signals like heavy breathing, moaning, or sighing, then keep doing what you’re doing. She loves it!
Additionally, the front commissure has become a bit famous in regards to the Mount Method, which we’ll cover in Chapter Six: Techniques.
The Clitoral Shaft
A lot of guys have the false notion that they need to “find” the clitoris. When in fact, the clitoris is mostly covered beneath the clitoral shaft. As you can see in the diagram above, the clitoral shaft is a lot like the base of your penis.
You can’t pull your foreskin all the way down the base of your penis, much like you can’t pull the clitoral hood all the way up the clitoral shaft. However, there are thousands of nerve endings in this area, making it a great zone to stroke and stimulate with varying levels of pressure.
Though not as highly sensitive as the Clitoris glans itself, the Clitoral Shaft is a region that should not be ignored.
When you’re touching your partner during foreplay, gently stroke the clitoral shaft with your finger. Now, however softly you’re touching it, touch it even softer. Yes, do is softer and slower than you ever thought possible. Stroke the clitoral shaft so softly that you’re barely even touching it. Stroke it so slowly that you couldn’t possibly go any slower.
This type of teasing should drive your partner so wild that she’ll be ready to scream out and beg you to touch her with more pressure. Experiment with varying levels of soft pressure and stroking, or tapping motions to continue to get her pussy ready for you.
The Clitoral Hood
The clitoral hood is the covering of the clitoral shaft. It’s a lot like foreskin in that it covers the clitoris, which is a lot like the head of a penis. Now, whereas many men often enjoy handjobs that can be rather vigorous on the head area, the female clitoris is much more sensitive.
In fact, the clitoris contains double as many nerve endings as the penis. Therefore, much gentler motions will have the same effect.
The clitoral hood can be very gently pulled up to reveal the creme de la creme, the pearl of the oyster, the crown jewel….the clitoris. Now, each woman is completely different. Every clitoral hood will display the clitoris somewhat differently. Some women may have a more exposed clitoris, whereas other women’s clitoral hoods would need to be pulled back to reveal the clitoris itself.
Because the clitoris is so incredibly sensitive, it’s a good idea not to yank up the clitoral hood in excitement to see the gem inside. A woman needs to be very worked up to have her clitoris touched straight-on and most women actually prefer it stroked through the hood.
Imagine an uncircumcised male. The clitoral hood is very much like the foreskin of the penis. Men really don’t enjoy having their foreskin peeled back and the head of their penis to be rubbed vigorously.
Ok, maybe some of them do. But, remember, the clitoris has double the amount of nerve endings as a penis head. Most women will prefer to work up to having their clit exposed and touched or licked, so take your time.
And there is plenty to do with the clitoral hood alone. Stroking, tapping, or using circular pulsing motions are all great ways to tantalize the clitoral glans that is lying just under the clitoral hood.
One cool maneuver you can use on the clitoral hood is to place your pointer and middle finger on opposite sides of the hood with the hood in between. Now slowly raise your fingers in an alternating pattern while squeezing the hood in between them.
If you’ve ever taken piano lessons, this would be synonymous with a trill. If not, just keep rubbing your fingers back and forth and adjust the speed to your lady’s liking.
This maneuver works particularly well when you’re propped up against the head of the bed and your woman is situated in the crook of your arm with her head on your chest or shoulder. Use your other hand to reach around and give her the ole two finger clitoral hood trill maneuver. You’re going to blow her mind.
⚠️ Warning
If you’re both engaging in manual stimulation, i.e. you’re touching each other, it can be really easy for you to get worked up. In other words, if your partner is pumping your dick up and down rather speedily, you may have the initial thought to mimic her speed and touch her clitoral hood with equal aggression.
However, this may not always be the case. Communication is key. Simply ask, “Do you want it harder?” or “Do you want it faster, too?” just to make sure you’re on the same page.
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The Frenulum
The frenulum resides just underneath the clitoris where the two upper bits of the labia minora connect with the underside of the clitoris. This is a great spot to gently rub or lick as you work your way around the clitoris during foreplay or oral stimulation.
⚠️ Warning
Remember, the urethra sits just under the frenulum. Most women aren’t too fond of having their urethra rubbed. So, be especially careful not to knick this area with a loose fingernail during foreplay.
After all, you don’t want to give your lady friend a urinary tract infection. Those are seriously nasty.
The Labia Minora and Labia Majora
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The Anus
Ah, yes, and now we come to the anus, which you may refer to colloquially as the asshole, butthole, chocolate starfish, or or brown eyed willy. No matter what you call it, it remains the same elusive and mysterious end to that long strip of pleasure starting at a woman’s pubic mound.
As we mentioned, some women aren’t into anal play, and that’s ok. Remember, it’s her body. And, there is really nothing less-sexy than an overly pushy guy trying to stick his dick in your asshole. Yeah, he’s not getting a call back. That’s for sure.
Therefore, first it’s important to figure out if your sexual partner is even interested in anal play. You could always just straight-up ask, but if you do, remember to come off as cool, confident, and as completely non-threatening as possible.
If she says no, let her know that it is not a big deal at all. Otherwise, she’ll be mentally comparing herself to an imagined harem of your previous butthole lovers.
Now, how can you bring this lady to multiple orgasm heaven if her head is in the worry zone? You can’t. Women need to be relaxed in order to let go enough to cum.
So, let’s recap. Determine if your lady is into anal. If she’s not, it’s no big deal. Back away from the butthole. On the other hand, if she’s interested, there is oh so much potential in the back door area.
Some girls simply like the area rubbed with a bit of saliva on your finger. Don’t neglect her buttocks during anal foreplay. Squeeze her sumptuous butt like it’s the most succulent peach you’ve ever laid your eyes on. Let her know that you love it and you can’t keep your hands off of it.
If your lady is into anal, then you’ll probably know at this point. Girls who like anal will be squirming in your hands and arching their back so you can get better access to their back door. Girls who aren’t into it, or may have changed their mind, will be squirming to get away from you.
Be mindful and pay attention to your woman. Remember, it’s all about her pleasure, so if she’s into it, go full force. If she isn’t, just back off and try again some other time.
Some girls are open to some finger play in the butt. You can probably get away with some saliva for rubbing the exterior of the anus, but you will for sure need some lube if there will be any insertion going on. So just tell her, “I would love to feel your tight little asshole around my finger. Mind if I grab some lube?”
⚠️ Warning
Do not double dip. Remember which finger you used on her butthole and do not dip that finger back into her vagina. It’s kind of a biohazard, for real.
You could inadvertently give your lady a vaginal infection if you’re going totally rogue on these two areas, and we all know what a vaginal infection means….no sex for weeks.
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Other erogenous zones – Delicious bits you just can’t forget
The word erogenous comes from the Greek word eros, which means love. Now, you don’t need to be in love with your sexual partner to activate her erogenous zones.
Just know that by activating them, you will be sending some very good vibrations through her body that will get her more and more ready for the main course of perfect cunnilingus.
Head and Hair
You know that feeling when you’re getting your hair shampooed at the barber? In a totally no-homo way the barber or stylist is shampooing your hair and you just get tingles all over. It’s relaxing, right?
The head area is a fantastically seductive erogenous zone to take advantage of during foreplay. If you want your lady’s pussy to moisten up just for you, you’ll need to get her relaxed and ready. Why not start with a gentle scalp massage that will have her moaning for more?
And if she’s into it, maybe give a few nice tugs to her luscious mane. Some girls like having their hair pulled so much, that they may even request it when you’re thrusting into them from behind in doggy style.
Neck
Don’t overlook the neck. The neck is a very sensitive area that responds well to light sensations. If your lady is into hard neck massages, save that for the massage parlor. If you want to get her turned on, run your fingers lightly down her neck, behind her ears.
Try gently scooping up her her hair from her neck and giving her warm and soft kisses from the back of her ears all the way to her shoulders. Gently pull on the collar of her shirt to give her more kisses just beneath the collar.
This is also a great way to get that shirt to come off, as she’ll be wanting more of those soft kisses all over her body.
Remember, the goal with the neck area is to give her a juicy tingly sensation that will spread all the way down to her pussy and get her turned on and ready for more stimulation.
Ears
How often do ears receive attention in day to day life? Pretty rarely, right? That’s what makes this erogenous zone super sensitive and hot for women.
Use your fingers on your partner’s ears to trace their soft outline. Notice the tiny peach-fuzz hairs on the ear and try to touch them so gently that you’re only stroking this fuzz. Once she starts relaxing and the moans and sighs start coming out, it’s time to give her ears a little nibble.
Use your mouth to give her earlobe light kisses. Experiment with big kisses, small kisses, and nibbles to see which elicits the best response.
⚠️ Warning
Do not stick your tongue into a woman’s ear. That’s called a Wet Willy and nobody wants that.
Lips
Did you know that lips have 100 times more nerve endings than our fingertips? Word.
After you’ve been caressing her neck, nibbling on her ears, and lightly pulling her hair, it’s probably time to move on to the most erotic part of her face: her mouth.
Start out with soft and gentle kisses punctuated with nibbles and a little tongue. Work your way up to full on french kisses and again, make sure that she’s into it. You’ll know she’s into it if she’s kissing you back with equal fervor.
Don’t forget to use your hands while you’re making out, and no, don’t just use them to grapple at her breasts. You’re not 15 (Or maybe you are—shit dude, you’re learning early! Good for you!).
This is all about her pleasure. Use one hand to strongly caress her neck. Slide a hand down her spine and let it rest on her hips. Pull her hips into you and then glide your hand back up her spine. Activate all her nerve receptors from the tip of her head to the base of her spine to make her ache for the caress of your warm tongue on her pussy.
🤘 Tip
Don’t be afraid to kiss her with passion. Some guys think that by staring into a female’s eyes, they’re going to end up married within a week. This is simply not the case. If you want to give a woman a mind-blowing sexual experience, you’ll need to treat her like you’re actually into her.
You don’t have to profess your undying love for her or anything, but taking some breaks from your makeout session to look into her eyes and caress her luscious lips with your fingertips, can’t hurt. Say something like, “You are so fucking sexy,” and then plunge back into your hungry kisses.
A passionate makeout session coupled with sexy banter will make her pussy super wet and ready for you.
⚠️ Warning
Don’t stick your tongue down her throat. French kisses are awesome, but there’s a fine line between sexy and suffocating. Walk that line gracefully.
Arms
The tissue on the inside of the arms is particularly sensitive, yet many men don’t spend time on this area during foreplay. This is a huge missed opportunity. If you lightly stroke the inside of your arm, you’ll feel just how sensitive this skin truly is–you’ll feel tingles all up your spine from just a little caress!
Now, during foreplay you could lightly touch the inside of your partner’s arm, or inch your way from her fingertips, up her arm and to her breasts with delicate yet hungry kisses.
🤘 Tip
The inner elbow is an incredibly sensitive area. Don’t forget to lavish some love on this underserved area.
⚠️ Warning
When we say the inside of the arm, we don’t necessarily mean the bottom half of the top of the arm. This area can sometimes be a bit flabby on some women and as we know, women can be rather self-conscious.
Therefore, don’t tease and tickle this area if your partner seems uncomfortable about it. After all, she may take things the wrong way and think you’re making fun of her flap flap. Not cool.
Stomach
Let’s imagine you’re cuddling on the couch together, or laying in bed. Soft, gentle, yet firm touches on the lower stomach can elicit powerful tingling sensations in your partner’s pussy. Go slow and let her savor each and every touch.
Tease her by gently rubbing her lower belly and coming very close to her pubic mound, without actually touching it. In this way, you’ll build up her arousal without going too fast. When she finally cries out for you to touch her down there, don’t give in just yet.
Instead, build up a slow trail of kisses down her stomach and then stop to give special attention to her pubic mound and front commissure. Make her beg for it before you go any further. Her pussy will be dripping wet by that time and totally ready for your tongue action.
Along the Spine
Giving your partner a nice back massage is one way to get things started in a more sexual direction after a long day. However, it’s also a way to get her blood circulating, which means increased blood flow to all regions of her body, if you catch the drift.
The spine is also an incredibly sensitive area that loves to be touched, caressed, tickled, and kissed. As with any touch, pay attention to your partner’s responses. If she gasps or sighs at any particular point, don’t just move on.
Take a moment to give some extra attention to her favorite spots to keep the momentum building.
The small of the back is another region along that spine that is really jam-packed with nerve endings. Try kissing this area very slowly, or using your tongue to follow her spine all the way down to her bum.
⚠️ Warning
Don’t follow the spine all the way to the butthole. You’ll freak some girls out with that kind of action (though others may love it).
Bottom
Now that you’ve traced her spine with your tongue all the way to her bum, take this opportunity to use both hands to grab her butt cheeks like you’ve never seen a bottom so round and fine in your entire life.
Squeeze her rump–pet it, caress it. Kiss it and pay particular attention to her hip area where her butt connects with her leg. This area can be incredibly sensitive, so you can really drive the ladies wild by kissing all the way around from her bottom to her pubic mound and back again.
She won’t know what you’re going to be up to next, but she won’t be able to wait. You’ll drive her mad!
🤘 Tip
Women are also often very self-conscious about the size of their hips and bums. Compliment your lady on her butt and help her to feel at ease.
Legs
Legs are an important part of any sexual encounter, whether it’s foreplay, oral sex, vaginal sex, or anal sex. Use your hands to caress up and down her legs. Hold her feet while you kiss her thighs. Use your hands to massage and hold her hips as you hungrily kiss her neck and shoulders.
Kiss the backs of her knees. Kiss the spot where her legs meet her pubic mound. Use your thumbs to pulse pleasure through her thighs as the rest of your hand holds her legs firmly for better control.
Yes, the legs hold infinite possibilities and are definitely not a spot to be ignored.
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Nipples
Research shows that when you stimulate a woman’s nipple, that information is processed in the same area as her brain as when you stimulate her clitoris and vagina. So, as you can see, the nipple can be a very intense pleasure zone for women.
Some women can even achieve orgasm through direct nipple stimulation. That’s pretty wild, right?
Try gently squeezing her nipple with your fingers and slightly raising it. If she likes it, go ahead and bring nipple number two into the action, as well.
Once you’ve got her nipples super hard and erect from squeezing, you can start to lick them in a circular motion. Take turns moving from one breast to the next and paying attention to her moans. If she’s moaning, that means she likes it. So, by all means, continue doing exactly what you’re doing.
For the grand finale of nipple play, you can intensify the sensations by sucking on her nipples. Start out sucking gently, and increase the pressure of the vacuum as you go. Pucker your lips and use them strategically to pull on her nipples as you suck them one by one.
This may or may not bring her to orgasm, but it’s guaranteed to get her super hot and bothered and ready for the most mind-blowing oral pleasure of her life.
🤘 Tip
Nipples come in all shapes and sizes. Appreciate the nipples you’re sucking on in the present moment, rather than comparing them to previously “perfect” nipples you’ve seen.
Additionally, just as all nipples are different, all women are different. Some women enjoy rough nipple play, and others are more sensitive. Respect your partner and make sure that whatever you’re doing is giving her pleasure.
What guide to follow – An example order
Now that you’ve been completely bombarded with information and your brain is in information overload, we’ll show you a few example guides. Now, you can most definitely mix things up.
Seduction is a very energetic thing—you should be in the moment with your partner and constantly reading her body language and the signals she is sending you. However, we recognize that sometimes it’s just best to go with the tried and true methods. Check them out:
The tension reliever
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Coming up: Taste and texture
In the next chapter you’ll learn how to make the most out of the plethora of vaginas you’re bound to experience.
The taste and texture of a vagina: What to expect and how to enjoy it all
When you go down on a new partner, you’re about to get up close and very personal with all of her lady bits. And since every woman is completely different, you’ll want to be acquainted with the wide variety of tastes and textures that you may experience in her nether region.
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Hair
Believe it or not, women in South Korea actually pay to get pubic hair transplants. That’s right, every culture has wildly different attitudes and beliefs regarding pubic hair. In South Korea pubic hair is definitely in.
For Koreans a full bush is a sign of fertility and sexual health. In fact, Americans who have visited Korean public baths have reportedly been asked by other bathers if they’re jealous of their luscious pubic locks. Most aren’t, in case you’re wondering.
Americans have been socialized via mainstream media to view pubic grooming as a must. Most American women tend to groom their pubic hair with shaving, trimming, and/or waxing. According to published research from the University of Texas, it is common for American women to engage in pubic hair grooming, especially once they’ve tried it.
However, almost 9% of the women in the study reported that they had never groomed their pubes and 20% said that they had in the past, but no longer do so. Therefore, we can expect that at least 30% of women out there will have some kind of a bush.
If you’re a porn fan, you’ve undoubtedly noticed that most of the women in the videos are very clean shaven or waxed. This makes sense from a videography perspective—you want the viewer to be able to see everything that’s going on down there.
However, in real life, women aren’t always going to be 100% hairless. And actually, whether she’s fuzzy or completely shaven, there’s a lot of fun to be had with her pussy.
Bear in mind that hair texture is also going to vary from person to person. Now, some people may have ideas about pubic hair texture based on race, but actually it really just differs more depending on the person.
As an example, many white girls have straight pubic hair, and many asian girls have curly pubic hair and vice versa. The color may also vary from the color of the girl’s hair on her head, but this doesn’t necessarily mean that she’s dyeing her pubes.
Enjoying the hairy and the hairless
Girls with fuller bushes may tend to be more hippie-dippie types. They eat organic. They’re fans of yoga. Maybe some of them don’t shave their pits either (don’t judge). These women tend to be super open and comfortable in their own skin. Many of them will be down for just about anything.
That’s right—these women embrace their animal nature. Sex with a woman with body hair can be liberating and totally wild. You can savor the smell of her pubes (yes, some consider it an aphrodisiac!) and feel it’s soft fuzziness against your face as you eat her out like a pro. Sure, she might not wear the itsy-bitsiest of bikinis at the beach, but she’s totally tuned in to her body and yours.
Some women are in-between on the pube scale. They maintain their bush, but they also don’t wax the entire thing off. These women are really the best of both worlds. You can still enjoy the erotic sensation of her landing strip tickling your nose as you eat her out, but at the same time the pubes aren’t out of control.
She can wear that tiny bikini with pride, but when she whips it off, there’s a tiny triangle of fuzz just waiting for you. You may find that some women wax or shave the pubic hair on their pussy lips, thighs and around their assholes, while still maintaining a landing strip or triangle of hair on their pubic mound.
Some of them even get their assholes bleached while at the waxing salon. It’s a new fad (don’t ask).
And of course, you have the waxers. These women don’t have a single hair on their bodies. They’re as soft and smooth as a naked mole rat and slightly reminiscent of a prepubescent kid (not that you’re into that). These women actually look like the stars you see in the pornos. You can see everything.
Giving waxed girls oral pleasure is really an opportunity to see exactly what kind of machinery women are working with down there. So, if you’re a novice, take your next opportunity with a waxed chick to take a really good look at her bits and bobs. You can use this information for later escapades!
💡 Remember
As a guy, you surely have your own preferences not only about women’s pubic grooming, but also your own. So remember, it goes both ways. If you’re bold enough to tell your woman to wax her pubes, she might just tell you the same. Word to the wise: waxing hurts like a bitch.
🤘 Tip
If you’re going to get down and dirty with a girl with a really full bush, you may want to wear a condom. If your dick is on the sensitive side, this will protect it from rug burn.
Shaving
A shaved pubic region can include shaving just the inner thighs, the inner thighs and the pussy lips, or the whole kit and kaboodle. No matter how much of it she’s shaving, one thing is for sure—it will grow back rather quickly.
Girls who shave their pubes won’t stay as soft as a peach forever. The hair will grow back after only a few days. Thus, you will most definitely encounter women with varying levels of stubble. You may find that the friction of her pubic stubble against your facial stubble is pretty uncomfortable when you’re going down on her. Stubble on stubble action is not preferred.
You will probably also encounter women with ingrown hairs and shaving rash. Yes, if you shave your beard, you know all about the pains and irritation of shaving rash. It’s exactly the same for women who shave down there. So, don’t be grossed out if she has a few little red irritation bumps.
Though, if she has any bumps on her actual pussy or pussy lips, you should definitely be wearing protection, or not going there at all.
Waxing
Waxing is one solution for women to stay softer for longer. Unlike shaving, waxing can last for weeks until the hair starts to grow back. Some even say that the hair grows back finer the more they wax, though this is disputed by ladies with aggressive hairs.
Although waxing looks wonderfully clean, it’s also a total pain in the ass. Remember the scene from The 40 Year Old Virgin when Steve Carrell waxes his chest and screams out “Kelly Clarkson” in torment? That is exactly what waxing feels like. And, it’s expensive.
So, if your girl doesn’t wax, it’s probably due to a combination of an aversion to pain and an aversion to spending copious amounts of moolah on primping. If you really want your partner to wax, try offering to pay for it (and for the pain killers and/or medical marijuana she’s going to need before and after the experience).
Many waxing salons are also willing to wax buttholes. So, if your partner has a totally hairless asshole, chances are that she’s waxed it, as well. And who knows, perhaps that waxed little butthole is an invitation for you to have a poke around the area. Just ask.
Extreme pubes
Yes, some girls dye their pubic hair. It’s kind of a new fad. So, if you pull down a girl’s panties and find bright magenta pubes smiling back at you, don’t freak out. This is totally normal. Ok, not totally normal, but the color isn’t due to a medical condition or anything.
So whether your girl has blue pubes, or has shaved them into the shape of a lightening bolt, just go with it. Besides, if a girl is this creative with her pubic hair, she’ll certainly be creative and open to new things in the sack. Jackpot!
Razor Burn
For women who shave, razor burn can be a serious issue. Vaginal hair is going to grow back every 3-4 days, so that constant shaving will definitely take its toll. Imagine the way your face feels with razor burn. Now imagine that razor burn on your balls. Yes, imagine your sweaty balls slinging back and forth as you walk on a hot summer’s day—with razor burn.
Razor burn on a pussy is just as horrific, if not more horrific, as you’re imagining it now. Remember this the next time you aggressively dive in to eat her pussy like a wild man.
If you notice razor burn, or ingrown hairs in your girl’s pubic region, don’t make a big deal of it and also do your best to avoid irritating the area. Hair only grows on the inner thighs, pubic mound, pussy lips, around the vagina, and asshole. So, you shouldn’t be dealing with any hairs on the clitoral hood, clitoris, inner lips, or vagina. And these are really the key areas you want to focus on anyways.
🤘 Tip
Lube can help with razor burned areas. And if you’ve got a fairly communicative relationship going, you can always suggest some aftershave lotion to your girl. Yes, they make aftershave for pussies, too.
Smell and Taste
The smell and taste of a pussy is an acquired one. Every pussy, just like every woman, will have its own unique aroma and taste. Some pussies may smell more acidic, while others more earthy. Some pussies smell (and taste!) sweet, while others are more bitter.
Think of it this way: you wouldn’t want to eat the exact same thing everyday, right? So, savor the unique flavor of the pussy you’re currently eating. Enjoy it. There’s probably not another vagina on the entire planet that smells and tastes exactly like it.
⚠️ Warning
Women can feel rather self-conscious about their smell and taste, just like they can feel self-conscious about every single part of their body. The media and societal gender expectations are basically warping their minds!
So, don’t play into that game. You go on and appreciate your woman’s body for the totally unique snowflake that it is, and even if you do think her pussy smells a bit unsavory, do not put that thought into words, unless of course you want to ruin your relationship/friendship forever.
Many men get super turned on by the aroma of a musky pussy. Licking a woman after she comes back from the gym, or after a long summer day, can be especially erotic. The trick to really eating pussy like a rockstar is to love pussy.
If you haven’t been around a lot of pussies, perhaps your first thought is aversion. Musky vagina? No way! Oh, young one, it will take time for you to learn the way of the jedi.
Take time to acquire the taste. Did you like straight whiskey when you first tried it? Probably not. It’s the same with pussy. And even if you don’t like it, try it. Try it multiple times with multiple women before you rule it out completely. Chances are, you’ll notice that the aroma of a vagina actually changes and sweetens as the woman becomes more and more aroused.
After more experience, you’ll be able to totally zone out on the smell of ripe pussy. Nothing will get you more turned on. Even better, the women you’re with will be able to feel this. They won’t feel ashamed about their pussy’s smell or taste. They’ll let go of all those worries. And when a woman lets go of worrying, that’s when her potential for out-of-this-world orgasms is at its best.
If the smell of ripe pussy doesn’t do it for you, no matter how hard you try, you can still enjoy the soft flavor of fresh-out-of-the-shower pussy. Bathing before sex can be a really erotic means of foreplay. As it takes women about 20 minutes to really warm up, this is the perfect time for a quick bath or shower together.
Then, both you and your partner will smell fresh and clean and will be able to get closer without any self-consciousness regarding smell. You can even take it all the way in the shower. Nothing is sexier than the skin of your partner glistening with wetness as you take turns going down on each other.
⚠️ Warning
Water does tend to wash away a woman’s natural lubrication. So, feel free to bring some lube into the shower and turn the shower head away from you while you’re getting it on.
Not sure how to initiate a shower together? Let’s say you’re working your way down to your partner’s pussy and you notice a strong unbathed-type aroma by the time you reach her navel. Again, if you’re not into musky pussy smells, this is the time to abort the cunnilingus mission and revert to shower mode.
You can easily say to your girl, “You know what, I just remembered that I worked out today and didn’t have a chance to shower. I would love to lather up your sexy body with soap in the shower. Want to take a quick dip with me?”
⚠️ Warning
Do not take the route of, “Girl, your pussy is dank! I am not going down there! WTF, yo?!” Be chill. But remember, even a shower won’t completely take away the taste of a pussy. The pussy will still taste like a pussy— just a less intense version.
If you don’t like hyper-clean smell of a freshly showered pussy, yet the musky aroma of a 2-day old pussy turns you off, morning pussy might be for you.
If your partner showers at night, you’ll find that her pussy in the morning is wet, erotic and just the right smell level that will allow you to binge out on pussy-eating until noon.
Now, hygiene is a factor that cannot be ignored. If your girl hasn’t taken a shower in a couple days or more, the smell may be especially pungent. Some guys are into that and if you are, more power to you. But, you should never feel obliged to go down on someone when they’re genuinely unclean.
Use that shower trick and lather her down first, or skip the oral for some good ole fingering action. Just like we wouldn’t pressure girls into licking our nasty-ass dirty dicks, we shouldn’t let women pressure us to go down on them when they’re super ripe.
⚠️ Warning
If your girl has a really strong odor with dark yellowish discharge, she may have a vaginal infection. No, a vaginal infection is not an STD, though she could have one of those, too. Stay vigilant.
Beard Burn
If you have a beard, or even just a slight 5 o’clock shadow, be aware that this could irritate your partner’s pussy.
Now, it really does depend on the person. Some girls are super into beards, which can provide an animalistic feel during oral. A lot of girls get off on the feeling of a beard on their cunts. Other girls will get an itching sensation that will drive them crazy (and not in a good way).
Simply communicate with your partner to make sure that she’s having a good time while you’re eating her out. If she’s backing away, or making any sort of grimacing face, it’s probably a sign that something isn’t right. This could be something other than your beard, which is why communication will clue you into what’s going on in her head.
Ask her, “Is my beard scratching you, babe?” and let her respond. If so, you can always go a little softer, or try a different position. Oftentimes, just using your tongue more than your face will help. Don’t press your face right up against her crotch and especially don’t move it around vigorously while in that vicinity.
Instead, elevate your face from her vulva and concentrate on using more tongue and fingers than face. If your nose is pressing up against her pubic mound, you may have pressed in too far. If this trick doesn’t work, you could always use a dental dam or cover your ZZ Top style beard with a towel.
💡 Remember
Beard burn can go both ways. Depending on what kind of pubic hair she’s sporting and what kind of beard you’re sporting, you could actually end up burning each other.
So, be upfront with your partner about how you’re feeling. And if a face/pussy with rug burn is worth it to you, by all means, keep going. If not, you may both need a little trim.
Menstruation
Many guys are grossed out by women on their periods. Some guys won’t even attempt to finger their woman, let alone orally or sexually stimulate her. And that is understandable, as she does have blood gushing out of her pussy.
Blood in that proportion is usually a sign of a critical medical emergency—not a sign to dive in head first.
Girls are usually feeling crampy and bloated anyways on their periods. Who says that she’d want to get down, right? Right?
Actually, lots of girls do like to get down when they’re on their periods, and don’t find it gross at all. Some women swear that orgasming can actually alleviate their menstrual cramps.
Now, if you’re legitimately turned off by the idea of all that blood, don’t worry. Don’t push yourself. She can always masturbate and you can play with her tits. No pressure.
On the other hand, if you’re open to experimentation, sex can be pretty enjoyable when a woman is menstruating.
Remember, this is the time of the month in which her hormones are raging, which can admittedly be a double-edged sword. She may be more prone to bitching and complaining, while simultaneously hornier than ever before.
Period blood makes fantastic lube. If your lady has trouble with vaginal dryness during most of the month, her week of bleeding is a perfect time to slide your fingers right in for some fun. You can always wear a condom on your fingers if you’re concerned about cleanliness.
If you’re really adventurous, or just in a super close relationship with your partner, you might even want to try eating her out while she’s on her period. If you’re scared of the mess you could always use some saran wrap, or a dental dam.
Otherwise, just feel your full-on animal nature and go to town on her amidst the blood. Some guys really enjoy the warm and metallic taste. But remember, it’s not just blood that’s coming out of her pussy during menstruation. You’re also going to be dealing with some potentially hefty amounts of gooey bits, as menstruation is the lining of a woman’s uterus that is being shed.
Therefore, it’s probably best to have oral or vaginal sex on a lighter flow day (unless you’re into that).
⚠️ Warning
If you’re not in a monogamous relationship, or your partner has an STD, be sure to always wear protection when you’re having sex, especially when your partner is menstruating. The chances of contracting HIV, for example, are much higher when she’s bleeding.
💡 Remember
Having unprotected sex while your partner is on her period does not mean that she’s unable to get pregnant. Yes, your chances of getting pregnant are very low during her period, but they’re not non-existent, so always wear protection.
Coming up: Foreplay for oral sex
In the next chapter you’ll learn how to get your partner super hot and bothered for the main course of cunnilingus.
Foreplay ideas for oral sex: Get her ready so you can blow her mind
How to get her in the mood for oral
Foreplay. Yes most men find it rather boring, but foreplay is actually incredibly important in getting a woman in the mood.
Research shows that most couples only spend about 7-8 minutes in foreplay, and this just isn’t enough to fully prepare your partner for sex.
Extending the length of foreplay can greatly increase your girl’s chance of having an orgasm during oral or vaginal sex. As we’ve mentioned before, it can take women up to 20 minutes to get fully turned on, so you’ll want to maximize these 20 minutes to ensure that she is super juiced up and ready for you to blow her mind later with multiple orgasms during oral and sex.
When you spend time engaging in foreplay, you’re ensuring that extra blood is pumping to your partner’s pussy. This increased blood flow will help her vagina to produce natural lubrication.
In other words, foreplay gets her body ready for you. Muscle tone throughout her vaginal and pelvic region will increase. Her uterus will actually shift upwards just a bit to make room for your dick during sex.
So, remember that a lot of physical changes need to take place in a woman’s body to prepare her for mindblowing sex. If your partner isn’t orgasming during oral or vaginal sex, chances are that you just haven’t spent enough time warming her up.
Put her pleasure first
Guys are hardwired differently than women. A man will be ready for sex in a few minutes, as opposed to the 20+ minutes it will take a woman to warm up. A guy could be completely done, start to finish, in less than the time it takes a woman to even get ready for sex.
Many women end up enduring this quick, abrasive and lackluster sex and are then stigmatized by their partner for “never wanting sex.” As you can imagine, if sex for you was totally unsatisfying, you probably wouldn’t want it either.
Obviously, this type of one-sided sex also creates a negative dynamic for any type of relationship. Even if you’re not dating this chick, she’s still going to think of you as a loser and she will drop you quicker than you can imagine once she finds a guy who can eat her pussy all night.
Getting yours without giving to her might give you a quick high, but it is nothing compared to the high of being able to make a woman scream with pleasure and squirt like a geyser. Having sex with a sad dry pussy is no match whatsoever to a gushing pussy that is aching for your cock.
By eating pussy like a pro, your partner is going to go wild for you. There’s really nothing like being truly wanted, rather than being constantly shut down in the bedroom. Once a woman wants you with this level of lust, your confidence is going to go through the roof. Which means you’ll only get more pussy.
By unlocking jedi-master levels of pussy eating skills, you’re basically transforming your life.
But, in order to get to this level, you have to go for the foreplay. Yes, at least 20 minutes of foreplay (or until she truly begs for more). This can be difficult, as your cock is going to be rock hard and ready to party, while she is still getting revved up.
Maybe 10 minutes in you start thinking, “Fuck it. I can’t wait any longer. 10 minutes is long enough right?” Wrong. Remember, you want your partner’s pussy to start juicing up. You want her to want you so bad that she’s begging for your cock.
And when she starts begging for your cock, you’re still not going to give it to her. Instead, you’re going to give her at least one orgasm by eating her pussy first. Oh yes, you are. Strength, men!
Don’t cum early
Before getting to oral, you’re going to have to make it through the foreplay. Some guys just keep their dick off limits during foreplay, as they find it difficult to concentrate on their partner. But, women can get really turned on by touching your cock, as it can help them to get more aroused.
If your girl wants to play with your dick, you might need to experiment with the start and stop method. This means that when you start to feel close, you simply ask your partner to stop. Take a minute or two to continue kissing caressing one another, before you let her touch you again.
The more you experiment with stopping, the easier it will be for you to sense the sensations that lead up to that feeling that you’re about to cum. In the future, you’ll be able to pinpoint these sensations early on so that you can stop in time before you cum.
⚠️ Warning
If you go too far, you’ll go past the point of no return and it will all be over. You don’t want to be that guy who cums during foreplay and never even makes it to the oral sex.
Another method is to think about something else. Now, this could temporarily ruin your boner, but thinking about something very un-sexy can definitely stop you from cumming.
Try thinking of something moderately unsexy as opposed to full-out grotesque. In other words, think about your to-do list, rather than your grandpa naked.
Of course, the ultimate method for not cumming during foreplay is to focus 100% on your woman. Yes, your dick will be burning with the fiery desires of 1,000 suns, but it will all be worth it in the end when your partner gets super wet and turned on after 20 minutes of foreplay.
Using kisses to turn her on
Being a good kisser is one way to let your woman know that you’ve got some mad skills in the oral department. After all, kissing is the original oral sex.
Having a hot and heavy makeout session that lasts will give your partner plenty of time to imagine what you’ve got in store for her later. Kissing for a good 10-15 minutes will help both you and your partner to relax and become more turned on, and there’s actually a scientific reason behind this—the swapping of saliva.
Researchers at Lafayette College found that kissing for 15 minutes helps to reduce stress and increase bonding feelings, especially for men. Researchers suspect this is due to the swapping of hormones via saliva. Weird!
💡 Remember
Kissing like a rockstar will for sure give your partner a hint at your skills in the oral department. However, that doesn’t mean that you should kiss a girl like you would kiss a pussy.
Flicking your tongue back and forth furiously in your girl’s mouth, as you would a clitoris, isn’t very sexy. It’s actually pretty weird. Keep your kisses slow and sensual and don’t let your tongue go rogue back in the corners of her mouth. Eew.
Using kisses to find out what she likes
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Let her know you want it
It’s important to exude an air of cool confidence when taking things to the next level with your partner. Even if you’re feeling intimidated, do not let her know it.
Look sexy. Act sexy. And most importantly, act like you want her. If you act as if you hungrily need sex without an actual desire for her as an individual, you might as well just quit now.
Your approach will set the tone of the entire experience, so be true to you. Whether you choose to act more playful, sensual, steamingly sexy, or flirtatious, this is all up to you. However, the number one rule is to continually give her signals that you want her.
Look her in the eyes. Give her a playful and flirtatious side grin. Raise your eyebrows when you look at her body. Above all, play it cool and confident.
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The techniques
A sensual massage
Remember, the purpose of foreplay is to get extra blood pumping to your partner’s pelvic region so that her body will naturally lubricate for sex. One surefire way to get the blood pumping is to give her a sensual massage.
For the massage to be sensual you’ll want to punctuate it with kisses along her spine, butt, and legs. You’ll also need to focus on the insides of her thighs, the small of her back and all of those erogenous zones that will make her sigh and moan with pleasure.
Look out for her sighs and listen for what she likes, so you can concentrate your teases on these spots.
⚠️ Warning
Do not give a relaxing massage. This could put her to sleep after a hard day of work.
A steamy shower
If you or your girl have had a long day, you may want to take a shower together to wash off all the grime. Girls are always worrying about something and body odor is one of those things.
So, unless you’re into musky body smells, a shower is probably the best idea. If you’re feeling more romantic, opt for a bath. Girls dig baths.
Breast stimulation
Touching, licking and sucking your partner’s breasts can make her arousal levels soar and get her super wet. But remember, boobs are a part of your girl’s body. They’re not squeeze toys. So, start out very softly. You can always increase the pressure as you go based on what she likes.
In many cases, even very soft caresses will get her very turned on. Start out my caressing the outside part of the breast and save the nipple for last to tease her until the very end. Likewise, save your licks and sucks for once she starts begging for it.
You can tell a girl is into it when she starts writhing around uncontrollably. She may even start to dry hump your leg. These are all good signs for you to continue upping your contact levels.
And did you know that some women can actually orgasm from breast stimulation? It’s true. If your partner is really into boob-play, keep going for as long as you can. She might even orgasm.
⚠️ Warning
Women orgasming from breast stimulation are pretty rare, but most women will still enjoy your attention to their breasts and nipples.
Check to see if she’s ready
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Masturbation
Depending on the girl and your level of comfort with one another, you could also choose to watch each other masturbate while switching off between touching one another’s naughty bits. Not only is this super fun, but it also gives you a chance to see how she touches herself.
If you can get a sense of the rhythm she likes, you can mimic this same rhythm later on. Try placing your hand over her hand and say, “Show me what makes you cum so I can lick you at just the right speed later.” What girl could turn that down?
Vibration
Don’t be afraid to bust out her vibrator as a prelude to oral. Using a small vibrator, like the ones that you can put over your finger, can be a great way to get her turned on so that oral will be a breeze.
But of course, this all depends on the woman. Some women don’t like toys. And some women might get desensitized by a vibrator if you use it for too long. Talk to your partner to see what gets her off.
⚠️ Warning
Ask your partner if she has a vibrator that she’d like to use. You can say, “Do you have any toys I could use on you?” Do not pull a vibrator out of your bedside drawer with a new partner. That girl is going to bolt out your front door faster than you can say “fuck me.”
First, she’s going to think you use this vibrator on a bunch of other girls, or that you use it on yourself. Either way, this will not spell s-e-x for you.
Act out your fantasies
Role playing is a cheeky way to flirt your way into your partner’s imagination. Oftentimes, role playing can take a girl’s focus off of herself and let her focus on getting into character. And, if she’s pretending to be someone else, that can sometimes help to ease her insecurities and help her to loosen up.
If you’re pretty good friends with this girl, you probably know some of her turn ons. So try playing into that with a devilish grin. If she plays along, just go for it.
Perhaps your girl, like millions of other women, is tantalized by the idea of being tied up (thanks 50 Shades of Grey). If so, you can easily have a necktie laying around that you can wrap around her eyes while you kiss your way down to her pussy.
⚠️ Warning
If you don’t know your partner’s fantasies, don’t just guess or act out your own. It’s better to ask her about her fantasies so that you can meet her needs. If she’s not into being tied up, you could seriously freak her out by trying to blindfold her.
Kisses south of the border
Another way to warm up your partner is to start kissing down her stomach, down her back, or down her sides leading up to her vagina. These are very sensitive areas you’re dealing with, so it’s again very important to take your time with long and sensual kisses.
If you kiss with fast fluttery kisses, you might just tickle her. This can ruin the long setup that you’ve worked so hard on. The idea is to make her super comfortable and blissed out, right? Don’t treat her like a Tickle Me Elmo at this pivotal moment.
Use your tongue to kiss down her sides. Give her one good bite as you kiss around her bum and circle in on her inner thighs. Come up for air to kiss her on the lips and look her in the eyes to tell her that you’re going to take all the time in the world on her. Tell her that you love her pussy. You are going to eat her pussy for hours.
⚠️ Warning
Be careful of your phrasing here. If you say you love to eat pussy in general, your partner might start thinking of all the other pussies you’ve eaten and get turned off.
Remember, we don’t want girls to start overanalyzing during oral. You’re at a critical moment here.
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Coming up: Techniques
In the next chapter you’ll learn how to lick and suck each and every pussy you encounter to glorious orgasm after orgasm.
Cunnilingus techniques: Mastering the art of oral pleasure
Now that you’ve spent a good 20 minutes on foreplay heating up your partner, it’s time to get down to business. The following techniques can easily be practiced with your mouth on your hand.
Go ahead and practice as you read along. Ok, don’t practice if you’re in a public space like on a bus, or in a library. Stop the bus! This man is totally making out with his hand while reading an eBook! Call the police!
Where to put your hands during oral
It’s easy to get so carried away thinking about how to lick your partner in just the right way that you use all of your concentration on your tongue and totally forget about the rest of your body.
However, oral sex isn’t entirely oral. It’s a physical act that centers around the oral pleasure that you’re creating for your partner, but that’s not all there is to it. If your girl wanted a stationary object poking at her clit, she’d use a vibrator.
So, use those hands. Slide your hands under her back and hinge them on her hips to draw her pussy in closer to your mouth. Cup her sumptuous booty and hold her close as you lick her with strong slow licks. Bring your hands up to her breasts and cup them as you’re going to town on her pussy.
If she wants more, use your hands to softly squeeze around the edges of her breasts. If she’s really into it, give her nipples soft squeezes and increase the intensity to the level that works for her.
Of course, you can also use your hands in the vicinity of her pussy. Use your hand to push down on her. Push down with your palm on her mons pubis for a grounding effect, or insert a finger or two into her vagina or anus (if she’s into that).
If you’re romantically inclined, hold hands! You can even hold on to her ankles or feet if her legs are raised. Just make sure that your hands aren’t stationary. That would be weird.
🤘 Tip
Some women have larger lips, or hairier situations that you have to deal with, so consider making a diamond with your two thumbs together at the bottom and your two pointer fingers together at the top.
Place the top of the diamond at her mons pubis and use it to rest your nose. Spread her pussy lips with your hands in between and your thumbs.
💡 Remember
Your tongue is going to provide natural lubrication during oral, but sometimes you might salivate too much, so consider putting a towel under her bum.
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Cunnilingus Techniques
As you’re making your way down to her pussy, consider taking a few moments to savor some soft, slow kisses on her abdomen and thighs. Just before you crown the mons pubis with your face, take a moment to hover over her bush in anticipation.
Don’t take too long, though, as she might get weirded out and imagine you’re concerned with her smell.
Around the world
Kiss her through her panties to start off. Smell her. Inhale her unique aroma. Let yourself get aroused as well. Women can sense if you’re into it or not, so you better get into it quick. One moment of hesitation and it’s over. Slide off her panties with your fingers, or with your teeth if you’re feeling especially cheeky.
When you first begin to kiss her pussy, you’ll want to start out with slow, light kisses using only your lips (no tongue). Each act of your sexual encounter should be as tantalizing and teasing as possible.
Build up that heat in her pussy by keeping her wanting more. Use your hot breath to breathe on her inner thighs. Alternate between cool breath and kisses as you approach her pubic mound. Caress her pubic hair and kiss her mons pubis as you make your way towards her pussy.
Use a wide, flat tongue to lick from her mons pubis down her clitoral hood, stopping just short of the clitoris. Try to take a full 30 seconds to lick down this area excruciatingly slowly. Don’t be surprised if your partner starts rocking her hips up to meet your face in anticipation. This means she likes it.
Now, massage the sides of her lips with your fingertips and use your tongue to trace slowly up one side of her lip over the clitoral hood, and down the other side. Repeat this move again and again.
💡 Remember
Pay attention—does she prefer you to lick one side of her clitoral shaft over the over? Does she prefer licks with a hard tongue or a soft tongue? Paying attention to her body’s responses to your licks will help you to understand exactly what gets her going.
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The Tongue Fuck
For this technique you will indeed fuck her pussy with your tongue. Stiffen your tongue slightly and slip your tongue into her vagina at different lengths. Start out with just the tip gently pulsing in and out of her wet pussy.
Then, if she seems to like this method, go a bit deeper and harder. You can also use this same type of tongue-poking method on her clitoris and clitoral hood.
Take turns moving from her clitoris to her pussy and listen to see how she responds to each area. If you notice that she responds better to either the clitoris or the vagina, center your efforts there.
🤘 Tip
Keep your upper teeth covered as much as possible with your upper lip. Vaginas and teeth do not mesh well.
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The ABC’s
We’ve all heard this one before—trace the letters of the alphabet with your tongue on your partner’s pussy. But, don’t be lame about it. Tracing A, B, C, D, etc. is pretty damn boring.
Use some imagination and get her to guess the letters you’re tracing with your stiff tongue. Some women will prefer you to trace on and around their clitoris, whereas other women will enjoy tracing over the entire vulva.
The cool thing about the ABC’s is that if you do it right, it will keep your partner guessing. She really doesn’t know which way your hard little tongue tip is going to go next. This will keep her pleasantly surprised and literally aching for more.
💡 Remember
If you notice that there are some letters that she particularly enjoys, keep throwing those in the mix and just forget about the guessing game. She won’t know what the hell you’re spelling—just keep doing the letters she likes over and over again.
Getting an orgasm is way more fun than playing some stupid guessing game, right?
The Sealed Lips
You know that maneuver you do with your dick where you slide your cock up and down your partner’s vaginal slit as a teaser right before you slide it in? Yes, that is a very hot move, but here’s a similar move you can do during oral with your tongue.
Hold your partner’s vaginal slit slightly together so that your tongue won’t be able to penetrate into her pussy at all. Now, use your tongue to run up and down the slit. As you partner starts to moan and beg for more, slowly release your grip on her vagina to open it more and more.
This is the point in which you can start to get more experimental with your tongue. Slide it in like in the french kiss maneuver, or flick it in and out as in the the tongue fuck technique.
The Nose
Why did the gods place your nose just above your mouth? For nose fucking of course! Use this technique to eat out your partner’s creaming pussy while also bopping her clitoris with your nose.
This will allow you to savor the juicy smells of her pussy, taste her cream and prod her to orgasm with your nose in just the right position.
🤘 Tip
This is a great maneuver for those times when your mouth starts to go limp after too much pussy eating. Take a break and use your fingers and your nose while your mouth recovers, and then dive in for more. And here you thought your nose was too big. You were created for great things, son!
⚠️ Warning
Not every woman is going to appreciate The Nose. Some may find it a bit weird.
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Happy Hour
Imagine that your partner’s vulva is a clock. The very end of her pubic mound is 12:00 and her clitoris is 6:00. Now, take a slightly firm tongue and spiral it all the way from the top at 12:00 and back around to 6:00.
Start out slow and once you sense that she’s in the zone and close to orgasming, you’ll want to speed up just a bit and then continue doing it exactly in the same way until she blows.
Feel free to switch it up to a counter clockwise motion, but only in the beginning. Once she’s about to cum, you’ll need to steady yourself with the same motions.
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Winter Breeze
If you’re an organized type, you may want to run to the fridge and grab an ice cube about halfway through your 20 minute foreplay session to let it start to melt. Then, by the time you get to the main course, the ice cube will be partially melted and ready to be used on your partner.
Grab the melty cube and tell your partner to stick out her tongue and give it a lick. Look her in the eyes and with a cocky smile tell her, “I’m going to make you squirm. You’re going to love it!”
Next, use the ice to trace down her neck to her nipples. Allow the cube to linger on each nipple as you passionately french kiss her mouth and nibble her neck. Now, bring the cube down her stomach and to her clitoris. Use the cube to trace down her clitoral hood, around her vulva and each lip.
Simply discard the ice cube in a nearby towel and now breathe cool breaths on her pussy. Alternate with hot breaths for a titillating experience.
⚠️ Warning
Do not hold the ice cube for too long on any part of her body—especially the clitoris! Frostbite on the clit–ouch!
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Two in the pink
This is a true oldie, but a goodie. While you’re using any of the above pussy-licking techniques, you can add in a little bonus by inserting some fingers in your partner’s vagina. Make sure she’s very wet and if not add some lube. Spit will not cut the job.
Two in the pink (One in the stink)
And if you and your lady friend are rather adventurous, you can easily use that pinky finger to either caress or tickle her bum. If she agrees, feel free to lube that pinky up and stick it just inside her butthole.
If you can get your partner to cum while your pinky is in her ass, you’ll actually be able to feel the incredible strength of her asshole muscles contracting during orgasm, which will probably just make you all the more excited to try anal one day.
💡 Remember
Not all women will be into this. Ask and ye shall receive (or potentially be shot down). But above all: ask before you go inserting anything into the stink.
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Toys
Sometimes guys can get a bit apprehensive about toys. Hell, if you’re honest with yourself, you probably get a bit jealous. But, there is really no reason for this. There’s room in this relationship for you and a few toys.
A tiny vibrator, for example, can be really fun to use on your partner’s clitoris while you lick other parts of her vulva. You can alternatively use a dildo on her vagina, while you suck her clit. Or, if she’s into anal play, there are all sorts of toys for that area, such as anal beads.
If your partner is into toys, but you haven’t dabbled in that arena yet, be open to trying something new. Your partner will appreciate your fresh outlook and openness (and you might even have fun while you’re at it).
Masturbation
You can watch your partner masturbate. She can watch you masturbate. You can masturbate together. You can both masturbate in the 69 position in between licks. There are so many variations for masturbation and this practice is really underutilized.
A lot of guys feel like if their partner masturbates even for a few minutes during a sexual encounter, that means that they’re unneeded or not up to par. But, that’s just not the case.
If a girl has been masturbating since she was 11 or so, she’s had hours upon hours of experience with what exactly gets her off. A lot of girls can make themselves cum in 1-2 minutes—this is how skilled they are.
This is why many ladies like to touch themselves during foreplay, or during cool down periods in between oral to keep themselves right at the edge of cumming. It’s sometimes easier for women to play on that edge between pleasure and full-out orgasm, than men, who can really quickly bust a nut.
So, take the opportunity to either touch yourself, too, or watch her technique. Place your fingers over hers and feel the pulse she’s creating. You can use this insider knowledge the next time you touch her. Knowledge is power.
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Practice makes perfect
Hey, if at first you don’t succeed, you better eat some more pussies. Eating pussy isn’t like changing the oil on a car. It isn’t like completing a algebra problem. It’s more intangible. It’s elusive. It’s like learning to salsa. With practice, you’ll be a pro.
If you find that your mouth tires out easily during oral, don’t give up hope. You could choose to take breaks between eating, fingering and masturbating. You could also do some oral exercises everyday to strengthen your muscles. Above all, never give up.
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Coming up: Advanced techniques
In the next chapter you’ll learn even more ways to turn up the heat and level up your cunnilingus skills.
Oral sex positions: Enjoy her pussy in over 20 positions
In movies we often see women receiving oral sex while lying on their backs. This is admittedly the default position and a lot of women do find it easier to orgasm in this manner.
However, that absolutely doesn’t mean that you can’t switch it up a bit. If your partner is able to orgasm on her back, don’t let that become your only mode of oral.
Women can cum in all sorts of positions. Practice can actually make perfect—so don’t give up. If you’re already blowing your partner’s mind with oral and you want to try something new, a simple change of position can take things to a whole other level.
Traditional
The traditional position, in which the woman lies on her back, is by far the most popular. This position offers you the opportunity to lie down on your stomach as you eat until your heart’s content. Your partner’s legs can be flat against the bed, drawn up close to her bottom, or wrapped around your neck.
But, traditional style pussy-eating doesn’t have to be traditional by any means. By placing her feet on your back or neck, this will open her pussy while also giving her a slutty feeling, which many women get off on.
On the other hand, she can draw her legs all the way up to her breasts, in a kind of fetal position, so that you can reach both her vagina and anus for licking and fingering fun. This can also enhance that lewd feeling that helps to release so many women’s inhibitions.
Traditional style also gives you a lot of freedom to use your hands to play with her boobs, hold her hips, finger her butthole, etc.
🤘 Tip
If you tend to get a stiff neck in this position, try placing a pillow under her bum to elevate her pussy.
Legs Up
As a bit of a variation on traditional style, your partner can lift her legs up in the air to expose her pussy to you. You’ll come in from behind her raised legs to eat her pussy between her legs.
💡 Remember
This position requires some flexibility from your girl. Have her raise her legs to a point that is comfortable, and don’t let her overdo it. There’s nothing more awkward than holding a slightly painful pose while someone goes to town on your crotch.
The Edge
As you’re eating your partner’s pussy in traditional style, use your strong grip to pull her by the hips down…
The Dominatrix
If you want to take a bit more of a submissive role to your partner’s pussy, simply have her stand/
69
One reason 69-ing is so popular is that it’s super comfortable. Forget the neck-related stresses of other pussy eating positions—the 69 position is comfortable for everyone involved and it allows you to get some pleasure of your own.
Man on top 69 and woman on top 69 are variations on this position which are equally fun. In fact, rolling from side 69 to woman on top 69 to side 69 to man on top 69 is a great way to keep mixing up your positions while maintaining constant mouth-to-pussy contact.
The only problem with 69-ing is that things can heat up so quickly that it’s difficult to concentrate on your partner. This often leads overly-excited men to wildly thrust in their partner’s mouth rather than focusing on their oral technique.
So, if you’re in the 69 position and you find yourself getting carried away, ask your partner to take a break so that you can focus 100% on her pleasure. Any woman will appreciate this sentiment, but some may prefer having your dick in the mix as a turn on.
If your partner prefers to lick or pull your cock, have her do so in a light teasing manner rather than full-force. This will help you to concentrate on her.
💡 Remember
Thrust your cock into her mouth in a slow and sexy rhythm. Don’t jackrabbit her face. That’s a surefire way to never experience the fun of 69-ing that partner ever again.
Standing 69
If you’re rather strong, or your partner is rather light, standing 69 is for you. And, if you’re strong and your partner is light, well, prepare to do this for hours on end because it is awesome.
The question that most couples have about standing 69 is, “How do we get into this position?” and that is a really fair question. Most couples prefer to start out in a kneeling or sitting 69 position and then you will lift your partner to the standing position.
How to get into a standing 69 position
However, if your partner is rather acrobatic, she could do a quick handstand as you squat. Once you’ve got her legs around your shoulders, just lift her up and use your hands to support her hips and back as you tongue her clit while all the blood rushes to her head.
68
If you like to 69, you’re going to love to 68. Some women claim this position is better than penetration…
Doggy style
Doggy style cunnilingus takes the same position as doggy style sex, except your face is where your dick would normally…
Forbidden Fruit
In the forbidden fruit position oral sex does really feel like a wonderful game. You can imagine your partner’s luscious…
The Butler
The butler is a similar position to forbidden fruit, except your partner is standing while you sit or crouch on…
The Drive-Thru
If you’re already in the butler position, go ahead and reverse your position so that you’re facing away from your…
Ear Muffs a similar position to the drive thru…
The Flag Pole
The flag pole is a variation on ear muffs. You will approach your partner’s pussy in the exact same way…
Eve’s Ecstasy
Your girl will reach ecstasy multiple times in this dominant position. Lay down on your back with your crown of…
Reverse Ecstasy
In this kinky variation, you’ll want to remain in the same position with the top of your head meeting the…
Feedbag
Don’t be afraid to get your food all over your face in this wild and mutually stimulating position. The feedbag…
Head Rush
Head rush is a bit like 69, except you’re standing and your partner is facing in the opposite direction. Therefore…
Cream Pie In The Sky
For cream pie in the sky, your partner will need be fairly flexible, as she’ll be resting in a position that is similar to the yoga position of the plough. This is a rather difficult position that is pretty straining on the neck, ribs and lungs.
However, if you’ve got yourself a yoga girl, she’ll have no problem with letting you eat her cream pie in the sky all day.
For this position, your partner will lie on her back on the bed. She’ll raise her legs straight up into the sky and then roll back onto her neck and flip her legs over her head. You’ll crouch over her very exposed nether regions to suck her cunt until she creams.
🤘 Tip
If your partner feels strained in this position, simply have her bring her legs up further to alleviate some of the stress on her lungs and ribs.
Lap Bondage
For lap bondage you’ll sit on the couch or the edge of the bed with your legs spread comfortably. Your…
North SOMF
Having a woman literally sit on your face is one of the best oral experiences you can ever have. Having…
South SOMF
Enjoying a good sit on my face session is already ecstasy, but having your partner turn around so that her…
Coming up: Role play Fantasies
In the next chapter you’ll see suggestions for unleashing your inner fantasies.
Role play fantasies: Indulge your imagination
Women need to relax during foreplay, cunnilingus and sex in order to orgasm. Some women are able to relax by role playing a fantasy. Every woman will have different fantasies and will be more or less open to talk about it.
One easy way to test the waters with a girl is to start out with flirty texts. In this way, you don’t have to be hella embarrassed if she doesn’t return the sentiment. Just text something cheeky like, “Mmmm if I were a doctor, I would give you a prescription for more orgasms,” or something similar. See if she takes the bait.
If that doesn’t work, you can always just come right out and ask her about her fantasies. Create a safe space where she’s not afraid to tell you something completely bizarre. If her fantasy is being raped—don’t judge her. It’s not like she actually wants to be raped. It’s just that imagining this scenario helps her to escape into her mind and get turned on.
It’s a bit like a porno—that you act out a little bit. Obviously the porno is fake, right? But it still gets you off. It’s the same thing with role playing.
🤘 Tip
Costumes can be bought relatively cheaply online and can really help to enhance the illusion!
Playing Doctor
Some girls get off on the kinky idea of playing doctor. Now, don’t go full out gyno on them. That shit can be scary. However, the power dynamic of patient and doctor can create a nice dominant/submissive scenario.
Have your partner sit up on the kitchen or bathroom counter and approach her with authority. If she’s into it, go all the way and definitely let the power go to your head.
⚠️ Warning
Not all girls find the concept of a doctor’s visit sexy. It’s best to talk with your partner about her fantasies and turn ons before instigating any role play.
On the other hand, if your girlfriend would prefer to be the one in charge, have her play doctor with you. Imagine it—she’s doing a routine examination. She asks you to remove your shirt and she’s obviously aroused by what she sees.
The bulge in your pants is too large to disguise. She continues the examination but can’t resist your bulging cock. Role play is fun, right?
Teacher and student
The teacher/student role play can be particularly satisfying because it plays on a fantasy we’ve all had—the sexy teacher! Now, depending on who is more dominant, you may end up being the student or the teacher.
If your girl prefers being dominated, she’d probably rather you play the part of the teacher. If she prefers being dominant, perhaps she will be the teacher. Or, maybe she’d rather play the manipulative student that seduces her teacher. The options here are endless!
Imagine it—you ask her to stay after class to discuss her behavior. She’s pouty and maybe a little bit flirty. You have to spank her for being flirtatious with a teacher, but when you see her tight little bum you find that you can’t control yourself. And, by the looks of it, she wants it, too. Neither of you can speak a word about your lusty encounters, but you can’t stop either! You’re addicted to fucking after school!
💡 Remember
It might be weird to imagine scenarios in which one of you is underage, but remember—this is just a fantasy. If your girl wants to imagine you’re her teacher and you’re taking advantage of her, that does not make you a pedophile and she knows that.
If it helps, pretend she’s a senior in high school, or in college. Do whatever it takes to ensure you both feel comfortable with the role play scenario.
Sex with a stranger
There is something decidedly sexy about having sex with a complete stranger and if you think that guys are the only ones who love no-strings-attached sex, you’re totally mistaken.
Perhaps she meets you in the bar, or on the street. Maybe she doesn’t even know your name. But, names have no meaning in this purely physical experience you’re sharing. You’re only here for her body and she’s only here for yours.
Imagine it—you’re sitting at a cafe bar having a coffee before you head home after work. You notice an incredibly sexy woman across the room and your eyes meet a few times. As you get up to leave, you notice she’s also leaving. Outside she simply takes your hand and leads you to the alleyway near the bar. She unzips your pants and hikes up her skirt. She’s yours for the taking.
Vampire
The real turn on about a vampire is that he looks young, yet he has the experience and wisdom of centuries of fucking hot babes. If you’re going to role play as a vampire, you’ll have to be classy, confident and experienced—or at least pretend to be.
Biting your partner’s neck can be especially arousing if you’re pretending to be a creature of the night. Maybe spice it up with a British accent from the 18th century—go wild!
You can draw your inspiration from films like Twilight or Interview With A Vampire. In fact, why not watch one of these films together to let your girl’s imagination run wild?
Then, either halfway through the film or afterwards you can seduce her just like a vampire. It will be easy for her to relax into the realm of fantasy when you’ve set the tone of your encounter like this.
Threesomes
If your partner is bi-curious, she may be into dirty talk that involves thinking about having a threesome with another woman. Maybe you want to discuss your mutual friends’ bodies and imagine undressing them together. Or perhaps you can watch some porn together and talk about what turns you on.
Imagine exactly how you’d come across this other woman and how you’d seduce her together. Whisper these erotic thoughts to your partner while you fondle her breasts and tease her pussy with your fingers.
⚠️ Warning
Only attempt this with girls who have expressly communicated their bisexual interest. If you try this with a straight girl, or a super monogamous girl, it will backfire.
Domination fantasies
Playing around with the ideas of BDSM and power dynamics can be really hot. Some girls are really into bondage and slave scenarios in which you play the role of the dominant male and she plays the role of the submissive girl.
However, always make sure that you have a safe word so that you can stop if things get too intense for her.
🤘 Tip
Leather and whips can really spice up this fantasy and are easily bought online.
Stripper
Your girl most likely doesn’t have the guts to strip off in a public setting, but she’d be happy to play the role of your private stripper at home.
Treat her like a stripper by telling her how hot and sexy she is as she does a naughty dance to one of your favorite beats. Then, stuff a few fives down her panties as she gives you a lap dance.
Smack that booty as she bends down to touch the floor. You may even decide to slide her panties to the slide to finger her clit as she shoves her pussy in your face.
This is one fantasy that you’ll both love—she feels slutty and yet in control all at the same time.
Secretary and boss
This fantasy also plays with the concepts of power and dominance. You’re the boss and she’s your employee. What could normally get your fired for sexual harassment can only add to the taboo in the bedroom. Ask her to come into your office. Shut the door. Watch as she seductively twirls her glasses in her teeth while she stares up at you with her innocent big doe eyes.
You can’t help yourself but give her what she most desires—for you to bend her over your desk and fuck her like an animal before getting back to work.
Hotel maid and guest
Staying at a hotel is a relaxing experience. You’ve had a long day of travel and now you’re relaxing to turn on some TV and unwind. Suddenly the buzzer rings and you realize that a maid is outside your door. Is she lost? Has she come to clean your room?
You open the door in your nothing but your bathrobe hastily hastened over your boxers and bare chest. The sexy young maid can see your dick growing through the thin materials of your boxers. She comes right in.
What you do with her next is up to your choosing. Bend her over. Have your way with her all night long. Tie her up and lick her pussy until she begs you to stop. This fantasy just gets better and better.
Porn star
You think that guys only like porn? Lots of ladies watch porn, too, and find porn stars super hot. Their lack of inhibitions and lust for sex can be a real turn on.
What’s even better is if you set up your own video system so that you can film yourselves and watch it again later when you’re in need of a little extra stimulation.
💡 Remember
Never film someone without their consent. Make sure that your girl knows that you’re filming and is ok with it.
Masseuse
In earlier chapters we showed you how to use erotic massage techniques to stimulate your partner. These will definitely come in handy when acting out the masseuse role play.
Whether it’s you or your partner acting out the part of the sensual masseuse, this is a great excuse to give and receive a massage that culminates in naughty pleasure.
Other fantasies
These are just some of the fantasies that you can experiment with. Remember, there are thousand of fantasies—you are only limited by your own imagination!
Coming up: Preparation for oral sex
In the next chapter you’ll learn how to maintain your entire body to ensure that the women you’re seeing will keep coming back for more.
Preparation for oral sex: Don’t be embarassed, be prepared
If you’re planning to have sex with a new partner, it’s just polite to consider your hygiene before the encounter. If you know the person well enough, perhaps you already know that body hair, or smells are actually a great turn on for them.
Otherwise, you should either ask them about their preferences in a nonchalant way, or go for a bit of preparation just in case. After all, first impressions are rather important, right? And if you want this first encounter to lead to more encounters, you have to look, smell and taste good.
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Trimming the beaver
A lot of men prefer women with trimmed, shaved, or waxed pussies for cunnilingus. A lot of hair can just end up getting in the way while you’re trying to get to work down there.
If your woman has a full bush and you’ve already tried eating her out a few times, but still can’t deal with it, you may want to politely tell her. Say something like, “Hey babe. I have to be honest, it’s kind of tough for me to eat you out with the hair. Would you mind trimming it for me? I really want to do the best job I can when I’m licking your pussy. I want to make you feel great.” If you frame this in a positive way, she may be more receptive to your suggestions.
In fact, if you’re in a pretty close relationship, you could try taking a bath together and shaving each other. This would require a fairly high level of trust (and motor skills) but it could be rather kinky!
Body hair
Some women, depending on their hair color, complexion, and shaving habits may have varying amounts of hair on their bodies. Remember, hair grows on women’s bodies just like it does on men’s bodies, so don’t be surprised to find hair in places you wouldn’t necessarily expect on a woman.
The key here is to play it cool. If your new sexual partner gets naked and she’s got pit hair, don’t freak out. Just try to go with it and above all, do not say anything rude or hurtful to her. Just because every woman isn’t as clean shaven as a prepubescent girl doesn’t mean that they aren’t good in the sack.
You could seriously be missing out on the hottest sex of your life if you walk away from someone who looks different than the type of person you typically sleep with. Live a little!
Some women also wax their assholes, but others do not. If you’re looking to get into some anal play, don’t be surprised if you find a fuzzy butthole back there. If this isn’t something you’re into, you might want to let your partner know that rimming would be made easier with a little shave.
You may also find that some women have leg or arm hair. Again, not really a reason to freak out in the moment, but it may be a conversation that comes up later if you decide to continue having casual sex, or continue your relationship.
You’ll probably also encounter women with nipple hair, facial hair, or stomach hair, but many shave, pluck or wax this away.
Stubble
As you know, there are some days when you just forget to shave. You’ve probably gone to work after a night out partying and realized that you have a 5 o’clock shadow. It’s the same with women. Unfortunately, shaving isn’t necessarily their number one priority.
So, even for women that do care a lot about trimming their body hair, you may catch them on a day when they simply forgot. Stubbly armpits, a fuzzy butthole, a little nipple hair—you never know, but again it is imperative to stay cool, calm and collected and act as if this is no big deal.
💡 Remember
If something legitimately turns you off, you don’t have to have sex. Just don’t be a dick about it.
Bodily Smells
If your girl hasn’t showered and you find her scent unattractive, you can easily suggest a mutual shower. This can be a huge turn on for both of you and you can scrub the odors right off of her as you fuck her from behind under relaxing pulse of your shower head.
Pussy smells
In the art of cunnilingus, you’ve learned that it’s extremely important to keep your women feeling sexy and relaxed. If her pussy smells and you tell her so, she is going to become decidedly unrelaxed and literal embodiment of un-sexiness.
So, if you encounter a pussy with a more pungent odor, don’t fear—this is manageable. First of all, check to make sure she’s clean. If she doesn’t have any goo going on down there, then she probably just has a naturally strong smell.
If, on the other hand, she has white smegma build up around her lips or under her clit hood, then she probably hasn’t bathed that day. Get that woman in the shower and lather her up!
⚠️ Warning
Vaginas are self cleaning organs, so you actually don’t need to use soap on her pussy. Just some warm water will easily do the trick and if any soap gets down there be sure to wash it off thoroughly.
An acquired taste
If you’re inexperienced with eating pussy, you may be intimidated by the flavor of a pussy. It is an acquired taste. If your lady looks relatively clean down there, then there’s really nothing to worry about.
Try it. Try it multiple times. And don’t lie and say something like, “You taste so good!” You can always compliment your partner on other things like the look of her pussy, or the way her body moves, etc.
If you don’t like it after multiple tries, you can always try some flavored lubes, a dental dam, or a mint in your mouth. There are options, so don’t insult her and don’t get bummed out. It may take some time for you to fully appreciate the glory that is the taste of a pussy.
Coming up: Oral sex warnings, common problems & health considerations
Knowledge is power and in the next chapter you’ll find out what you should be looking out for and how to play it safe.
Oral sex warnings, common problems & health considerations: Keeping it classy when issues arrive
Dry Vagina
If you’ve been with a woman whose vagina didn’t get wet after a good 20-30 minutes, you probably felt inevitably crestfallen. But, the reality is that many women experience vaginal dryness and it has absolutely nothing to do with your powers of seduction.
Vaginal dryness can be caused by estrogen levels, which rise and fall throughout the month. So quite literally, if you caught her on a bad day, her pussy could be dryer than usual. It’s really not you.
Women already know that drinking the recommended 8+ glasses of water per day is great for their figure. However, many may not know that staying hydrated will actually help to keep the skin moisturized. Yes, this includes the vaginal skin. So, if you notice that your partner isn’t downing a glass of water every hour, you could suggest this as a preliminary measure.
Play it chill and say something like, “Hey babe. I realized that I don’t drink enough water every day and I’m going to make an effort to do better. Can you remind me every hour to drink a glass of water? Do you want to do it with me?”
This is a much smoother approach than, “Hey, you need to drink more water because your pussy is dry as fuck.” Nooo—don’t say it!
Nearly 1 in 5 women between the ages of 18-50 experience vaginal dryness, and this percentage goes way up after menopause. So, if your woman has had a hysterectomy for medical reasons, this could also be the culprit.
No matter what is the cause of her dryness, it’s up to you to not make her feel horrible about it. Don’t take it personally, and make a concerted effort to show her that it’s not a big deal. Remember, when women get stressed out, they can’t relax enough to get turned on, get lubed up and have an orgasm.
So, it’s your job to keep your woman super relaxed so that she doesn’t focus on any flaws or shortcomings.
After all, vaginal dryness really isn’t a big deal. There are so many lubes and moisturizing gels on the market that you could experiment for years. If your partner is experiencing vaginal dryness, it’s best to talk about lubes and gels together.
Make it a part of your sexual routine. Lube her up while you’re fingering her. Make it sexy. What you don’t want to do here is go out and buy some lube and then surprise your girl by saying, “Hey, I got some lube for your vaginal dryness!” The key here is not to mortify your woman. Make it sexy, not weird!
🤘 Tip
Use a water-based lubricant before sex to make sure everything is nice and slippery. A petroleum-based lubricant like Vaseline will also work. If your girl has severe dryness, she can also apply a vaginal moisturizer 2-3 times per week, which will last longer.
Vaginal moisturizers don’t need to be applied right before sex. And a combination of both the lube and the moisturizer will take care of most dryness issues.
Vaginal discharge
Vaginas are kind of amazing—they’re self cleaning organs. That means that you don’t actually have to wash a vagina with soap. They clean themselves—kind of like cats. Is that why they call them pussies? Mind blown.
Because vaginas clean themselves, it’s not uncommon to come across some mucous-y discharge in your girl’s panties or in her vagina. That’s just her vagina cleaning itself. No big deal. Of course, if the discharge is yellow, green, or brown, she could have an infection. You might want to let her know.
Queefs
You’ve surely had one of those awkward moments when you’re really in the moment fucking a girl hard and then suddenly you hear this God-awful farting noise.
You think to yourself, “Did this bitch just fart on me?” No, well, maybe. But, chances are that she merely queefed, which is a completely natural phenomenon.
If you’ve ever pumped air into a bicycle tire, you can easily see that queefs are entirely within the realm of physics. As your dick is doing the ole’ in and out maneuver, air is also being pushed little by little into her pussy. Eventually, there’s so much air in there that it escapes—in a very farty way.
If your partner queefs, absolutely do not make a joke. If you’re about to laugh, bite your tongue. Bite it hard! Even if you think your partner has a pretty good sense of humor, you’ve got to draw the line at making fun of her vaginal farts.
You’ll know if it’s a queef if it doesn’t smell. You’ll also probably be able to feel it a bit on your dick as the air escapes. If it does smell, it could have been an actual fart. Otherwise, your partner could have a really serious condition.
Don’t say anything during sex, but if you’re close with your partner, you may want to mention it later.
⚠️ Warning
If the queef smells (and it’s legitimately a queef and not a fart that she’s attempting to disguise as a queef), your partner could have a fistula, which is a connection between the vagina and the colon. It’s a really serious condition, so if this is the case, she needs to see a doctor ASAP.
One way that women can mitigate the risk of serious queefing is to practice kegel exercises. Kegel exercises strengthen the pelvic muscles and can tone up the vagina so that it can really grip your dick during sex. Ask your partner if she’s ever tried Kegels (she probably has) and then request a demo.
Women CAN Fake It
When you cum, it’s pretty obvious, right? Since most men orgasm and ejaculate at the same time, it’s pretty hard for men to fake their orgasms.
Women, as we know, have more nuanced orgasms. In fact, if she wasn’t screaming, breathing heavy, or flat out telling you she orgasmed, you might even miss it. And for lots of women, for many reasons, they choose to fake their orgasm.
Some women do this because they don’t want to disappoint their partner. After all, the girl must like you at least a little bit to be having sex with you in the first place. Women are usually careful not to bruise the male ego. Although, faking orgasms really isn’t helping anyone involved.
By faking it, guys don’t realize that they’re doing anything wrong. In fact, they might even think they’re pretty good at it, which of course can have disastrous consequences—mainly that you won’t get any better at it.
On the other hand, the woman doesn’t have to face whatever it is that is blocking her from orgasming. So, faking it is a bad idea for everyone involved.
If you suspect that your partner is faking it, don’t just come right out and question her like the Inquisition. Be much more sly about it. She might not be faking it. Perhaps she’s just a really dramatic orgasm-er. And if she is faking it, the last role you want to play is that of the suspicious and blaming lover.
Many women don’t orgasm due to a lack of clitoral stimulation. Are you spending a full 20 minutes dabbling in foreplay before you start licking her? Have you asked her what she likes?
Let your partner know that she can tell you anything. Stress to her how much you value honesty. Let her know just how much you want to make her cum over and over again. Try to fix the issue together by staying cool, calm and collected about it.
The last thing a woman with an orgasm problem needs is a partner who is freaking out about his inability to make her orgasm. Remember, stress for women will only hamper them from orgasming. Keep the sex-zone stress free.
By having open and honest dialogue during and outside of sex, you’ll be able to get to know what your partner needs and you should be able to legitimately make her orgasm after some time.
Inability to Orgasm
Then again, there are some women who really can’t orgasm. Anorgasmia is a condition in which a woman can’t reach climax even after ample sexual stimulation. Anorgasmia affects about 5% of women.
Ask your partner if she can reach climax through masturbation. If so, the problem isn’t as bad as it could be. In this case, simply help her to relax with dim lighting, nice music, and maybe even some porn. Try to replicate the scene in which she normally masturbates. You can fondle her breasts while she masturbates or even masturbate with her.
After a few sessions like this, ask her if you can try to touch her as well. You could even allow her to get herself very close through masturbation and then you lick her to orgasm just at the very last moment. Work together to figure out how she prefers to be stimulated.
Another issue which can affect a woman’s ability to orgasm are clitoral adhesions. If your partner is unable to pull back her clitoral hood, she may have a buildup of smegma under the hood which has essentially grown into the folds of her skin. As you know, the clitoral hood is a lot like the foreskin and if you don’t pull back your foreskin and clean it, it can get kind of gooey.
For women who haven’t pulled back their hood in years, this can amount to a fused clitoris. This can usually be pretty easily cleared out by a visit to the gynecologist, or in less severe cases, a very dedicated scrubbing with a washcloth and cotton buds and tweezers.
If you can’t see your partner’s clit at all and it seems as if it’s stuck underneath the clitoral hood, this may be worth mentioning to her so she can seek medical help.
On the other hand, there are a number of women who can’t orgasm at all. Some of these women may have experienced sexual trauma such as rape, incest, pedophilia, or other types of trauma. Events like these can leave scars on a woman’s psyche that prevent her from being able to be emotionally or physically intimate.
If your partner hasn’t told you about any sexual trauma, don’t push the subject during sex. Above all, do not say something like, “What’s wrong with you? Were you molested as a kid or something?” This is incredibly insensitive and will probably only further the wedge between your relationship.
If your partner has confided in you, help her to seek out professionals to help her conquer her pain so that you can grow closer as a couple.
⚠️ Warning
Lots of women aren’t into being tied up, being taken from behind, or other submissive positions because of a sexual trauma in their past.
If you’re with a woman who seems really averse to these types of dominant acts, you don’t need to push the subject. Simply respect her boundaries and she’ll confide in you when she feels like it.
Is Cunnilingus a Risky Behavior?
The risk of contracting an STD via oral sex is considerably lower than through unprotected vaginal or anal intercourse. However, no matter what you’ve heard, any kind of unprotected sex or oral sex poses a risk of contracting STDs.
If you have cold sores, for example, that’s herpes. And yes, you can give you partner herpes by going down on her and you don’t necessarily have to have a huge cold sore at the time. Definitely steer clear of oral sex when you do have a cold sore, but if you want to play it super cautious, you may need to also wear a dental dam when you go down on a girl.
Don’t hide the fact that you have herpes. Just tell her, “I sometimes get cold sores on my mouth and I heard that if I go down on you I could actually pass that on to your pussy, which doesn’t sound like fun, so I’d prefer to play it safe.” Any woman will respect that.
🤘 Tip
Even non-microwaveable plastic food wrap can make a pretty darn efficient makeshift dental dam.
STD clinics have reported that 5-10% of patients with gonorrhea actually have gonorrhea of the throat. You can do the math on this one. And unfortunately, antibiotic-resistant oral gonorrhea is on the rise, which makes oral gonorrhea pretty difficult to treat.
It’s best to avoid cunnilingus while your partner is on her period, as menstrual blood does carry enough HIV to form an infection.
⚠️ Warning
If you have a cut, blister, or sore in your mouth, avoid oral. Additionally, if you’ve recently had dental work done, avoid giving oral sex.
⚠️ Warning
Avoid oral with girls who are menstruating. Of course, you could clean her off really well with a washcloth and then only lick her clit without going any further towards her vagina. However, this is still a risky behavior. Dental dams are your safest bet.
Is Rimming Risky?
Although rimming is not an effective way of transmitting HIV, if there is a tear on the anus, or blood present in the fecal matter, it could happen. You’ve got a better chance of contracting syphilis, hepatitis A, gonorrhea and intestinal infections from rimming.
There are vaccinations against Hepatitis A and B, so if you rim a lot with a lot of different partners, it’s best to get one.
Using a dental dam is an efficient way to prevent STDs from rimming.
💡 Remember
Wash the asshole very thoroughly before rimming and make sure there aren’t any cuts present.
Safer Sex
Talking to your partner about their sexual history can be weird, but it’s no more uncomfortable than contracting an STD.
Take charge of your sexual health by having the guts to have this much-needed conversation with your partner before you engage in any sexual activity. Don’t make any assumptions about whether or not your partner has an STD. Also, don’t assume that she’s going to take care of birth control. Ask.
You may be unsure about how to start this conversation. Yes, it’s an awkward conversation to have, but you have to have it to protect yourself. So, tell your partner that you care about having safe sex.
Think about times that you’ve had other difficult conversations with your partner. What worked? What didn’t work? Use this data to think about how you should have this conversation.
Think about what you’re going to say ahead of time. Choose a time when you’re both feeling positive. If you choose a time to breach this topic when you or your partner are feeling tired, or grumpy, things could easily go downhill.
During the conversation, make sure that you come to some agreements.
- Get tested for STDs
- Use condoms, dental dams, other safe sex tools, especially with other partners
This kind of open dialogue might be a bit uncomfortable, but it’s a hell of a lot more comfortable than contracting an STD.
💡 Remember
Even if you’re just having a random hookup, it’s seriously important to talk about STDs and protection. Carry condoms with you and dental dams at all times. You could easily bust them out and say, “I’m ready!”
💡 Remember
Even if you’ve already had unprotected sex, it’s never too late to talk about sex for the future.
🤘 Tip
Get tested for STDs every 6 months to a year if you’re sexually active. Stay on top of this!
Air Embolism
An air embolism is when air gets into an artery or vein, which can cause stroke and even death. Never blow air into your partner’s vagina while you’re performing cunnilingus. It’s ok to lightly blow over her vulva, like when you’re using a breath mint to stimulate that feeling of hot and cold.
However, blowing directly into her vagina is incredibly dangerous. Although air embolisms are quite rare, they do happen, so don’t risk it.
⚠️ Warning
Never blow directly into a vagina. The risk of developing an air embolism is higher with pregnant women who may have a tear in their uterus.
Episiotomy
If you’re with a woman who has given birth to a child, she may have had an episiotomy. Some women’s vaginal openings tear naturally during birth and have to be sewn up with stitches. Others have to have a surgical cut performed for various medical reasons. This also requires stitches. It can take a woman at least a month to heal from an episiotomy.
The resulting scar from an episiotomy can be very tender. Therefore, if you notice a scar at the lower end of the vagina extending to the perineum, be careful with it. Ask your partner if she had the procedure and if the scar gives her any problems. You may need to use a lubricant during sex to ease the pain.
Safer-Sex Gear
Dental Dams
Dental dams work great for oral sex. Dental dams are small, thin pieces of plastic that you use to keep vaginal and anal fluids containing bacteria or viruses away from the mouth during cunnilingus.
Dental dams are also available in silicone for those with latex allergies. However, plastic cling wrap will also get the job done.
🤘 Tip
If the natural flavor of the vagina weirds you out, put a little flavored lube on your side of the dental dam, or chew some minty gum.
Latex gloves
Fingering a vagina or anus can also pose a risk—especially if you have a small cut on the side of your nail. Even a small cut can spread blood borne diseases like HIV.
So, if you want to be especially cautious with new partners, simply wear a glove. Admittedly, a rubber glove isn’t necessarily the sexiest thing in the world, but if you can work into some doctor role-playing, it might work.
Condoms
There’s nothing sexier you can bust out during sex than a condom. This will show your partner that you’re not only a rockstar pussy licker, but you’re also damn smart.
It’s always fun to mix up cunnilingus with a bit of dick teasing. You know, sliding your dick all over your partner’s wet pussy before diving back in for more pussy licking.
Well, whether you’re using your dick as a way to enhance cunnilingus, or you’re going all the way in for vaginal or anal sex, condoms are the only way to prevent against STDs.
Latex condoms
Latex condoms are about 85% effective in preventing pregnancies and the effectiveness rate for different STDs varies. When used correctly, condoms can prevent the transfer of HIV nearly 100%, but other STDs like HPV can be transferred by other parts that aren’t covered by a condom, like the scrotum.
Latex also stretches really well, so if you’re a big guy, you won’t have any problems slipping on a latex condom. But remember, latex condoms really shouldn’t be mixed with oils. Oil can cause a latex condom to slip or break more easily. Use a water-based lubricant instead.
Latex-free condoms
If you’re allergic to latex, that’s no excuse. Nowadays there are polyurethane condoms that also prevent pregnancies and the transfer of STDs. Polyurethane condoms are quite thin and lots of people prefer them as they mimic the feeling of condom-free sex.
Lamb skin condoms
In the olden days, our ancestors used animal intestines as condoms. True story. Today you can enjoy lamb skin condoms, but beware—they don’t prevent against STDs and aren’t as effective as latex condoms in preventing pregnancies.
Also, be careful not to bust these bad boys out around vegetarian or vegan women—that’s a real recipe for sexual disaster.
Spermicide condoms
Spermicide condoms are all the rage for those couples with serious pregnancy anxiety. Condoms with spermicide give double the protection, as the chemical lube inside actually kills your sperm.
⚠️ Warning
Lots of guys and girls find that they’re allergic to spermicide. Ask your girl if she’s ok with spermicide condoms before you use them. Nothing kills the sex vibe like a serious allergic reaction.
Textured condoms
Ribbed, dotted, and studded condoms are all the rage. Some women who have vaginal orgasms really enjoy the effects of a nice ribbed condom. Whereas, for women who prefer clitoral orgasms, it may not make a difference.
Warming condoms
Warming condoms can provide a little extra stimulation. These condoms pack a punch with a fiery lube that can rocket girls to orgasm. In other cases, it just rockets them to the shower to wash off the warming lube.
💡 Remember
Make sure your girl knows you’re using a warming condom and she’s down for it.
Designer condoms
No, these condoms aren’t made by Louis Vuitton, but they do have cool patterns on them. So, if you want to try something a little different, grab a pack of these weird condoms to spice things up.
Flavored condoms
Lots of girls are very down to give you a blowjob if you’re wearing a strawberry or banana flavored condom. I mean, who wouldn’t want to stick a cock in their mouth when it tastes like the ice cream flavor of childhood summers?
Even better, if you fuck your partner for a bit with a flavored condom on, and then you want to eat her out, her pussy will also be flavored. Score!
Ultra Thin condoms
Yes, ultra thin condoms have been approved by the FDA. Therefore, they’re just as effective at preventing pregnancies and STDs. Additionally, thin condoms are not more prone to breaking than regular condoms.
Ultra thins help you to feel the sensations better and many males and females alike prefer them. So, geez, why isn’t everyone using ultra thins?
Her Pleasure condoms
A few brands offer condoms for “her pleasure” that are supposed to increase friction at the head, as well as stimulate the g-spot. Try them out and see what your partner thinks!
Glow in the dark condoms
Hey, if you’re getting jiggy after a costume party, why not whip out a glow in the dark condom to wow your lady friend? Guaranteed amusement. Turn off the lights and let your light shine!
💡 Remember
Don’t use double condoms. This won’t offer more protection, it will just make the condom more likely to tear.
Flavored Vulvas
Flavored lube was basically made for oral sex and it comes in an astonishing variety of flavors. You can go for a water-based lubricant, or an oil-based and pick your flavor. Vanilla, strawberry, banana, and chocolate are go-to flavors, but lubes come in all kinds of kinky flavors that you may not have considered.
Some lines even offer vagina-flavored and cock-flavored lube. So, if you really want to try something radically different, there is a lube out there just for you.
⚠️ Warning
Many flavored lubes contain glycerin or aspartame, which some women are sensitive to. Always discuss what you’re using with your partner. Knowledge is power.