By Amy J. Fillmore – Author and blogger
📕 This article is part of the popular book
How to eat pussy like a Rockstar.
Women need to relax during foreplay, cunnilingus and sex in order to orgasm. Some women are able to relax by role playing a fantasy. Every woman will have different fantasies and will be more or less open to talk about it.
One easy way to test the waters with a girl is to start out with flirty texts. In this way, you don’t have to be hella embarrassed if she doesn’t return the sentiment. Just text something cheeky like, “Mmmm if I were a doctor, I would give you a prescription for more orgasms,” or something similar. See if she takes the bait.
If that doesn’t work, you can always just come right out and ask her about her fantasies. Create a safe space where she’s not afraid to tell you something completely bizarre. If her fantasy is being raped—don’t judge her. It’s not like she actually wants to be raped. It’s just that imagining this scenario helps her to escape into her mind and get turned on.
It’s a bit like a porno—that you act out a little bit. Obviously the porno is fake, right? But it still gets you off. It’s the same thing with role playing.
🤘 Tip
Costumes can be bought relatively cheaply online and can really help to enhance the illusion!
Playing Doctor
Some girls get off on the kinky idea of playing doctor. Now, don’t go full out gyno on them. That shit can be scary. However, the power dynamic of patient and doctor can create a nice dominant/submissive scenario.
Have your partner sit up on the kitchen or bathroom counter and approach her with authority. If she’s into it, go all the way and definitely let the power go to your head.
⚠️ Warning
Not all girls find the concept of a doctor’s visit sexy. It’s best to talk with your partner about her fantasies and turn ons before instigating any role play.
On the other hand, if your girlfriend would prefer to be the one in charge, have her play doctor with you. Imagine it—she’s doing a routine examination. She asks you to remove your shirt and she’s obviously aroused by what she sees.
The bulge in your pants is too large to disguise. She continues the examination but can’t resist your bulging cock. Role play is fun, right?
Teacher and student
The teacher/student role play can be particularly satisfying because it plays on a fantasy we’ve all had—the sexy teacher! Now, depending on who is more dominant, you may end up being the student or the teacher.
If your girl prefers being dominated, she’d probably rather you play the part of the teacher. If she prefers being dominant, perhaps she will be the teacher. Or, maybe she’d rather play the manipulative student that seduces her teacher. The options here are endless!
Imagine it—you ask her to stay after class to discuss her behavior. She’s pouty and maybe a little bit flirty. You have to spank her for being flirtatious with a teacher, but when you see her tight little bum you find that you can’t control yourself. And, by the looks of it, she wants it, too. Neither of you can speak a word about your lusty encounters, but you can’t stop either! You’re addicted to fucking after school!
💡 Remember
It might be weird to imagine scenarios in which one of you is underage, but remember—this is just a fantasy. If your girl wants to imagine you’re her teacher and you’re taking advantage of her, that does not make you a pedophile and she knows that.
It might be weird to imagine scenarios in which one of you is underage, but remember—this is just a fantasy. If your girl wants to imagine you’re her teacher and you’re taking advantage of her, that does not make you a pedophile and she knows that.
If it helps, pretend she’s a senior in high school, or in college. Do whatever it takes to ensure you both feel comfortable with the role play scenario.
Sex with a stranger
There is something decidedly sexy about having sex with a complete stranger and if you think that guys are the only ones who love no-strings-attached sex, you’re totally mistaken.
Perhaps she meets you in the bar, or on the street. Maybe she doesn’t even know your name. But, names have no meaning in this purely physical experience you’re sharing. You’re only here for her body and she’s only here for yours.
Imagine it—you’re sitting at a cafe bar having a coffee before you head home after work. You notice an incredibly sexy woman across the room and your eyes meet a few times. As you get up to leave, you notice she’s also leaving. Outside she simply takes your hand and leads you to the alleyway near the bar. She unzips your pants and hikes up her skirt. She’s yours for the taking.
Vampire
The real turn on about a vampire is that he looks young, yet he has the experience and wisdom of centuries of fucking hot babes. If you’re going to role play as a vampire, you’ll have to be classy, confident and experienced—or at least pretend to be.
Biting your partner’s neck can be especially arousing if you’re pretending to be a creature of the night. Maybe spice it up with a British accent from the 18th century—go wild!
You can draw your inspiration from films like Twilight or Interview With A Vampire. In fact, why not watch one of these films together to let your girl’s imagination run wild?
Then, either halfway through the film or afterwards you can seduce her just like a vampire. It will be easy for her to relax into the realm of fantasy when you’ve set the tone of your encounter like this.
Threesomes
If your partner is bi-curious, she may be into dirty talk that involves thinking about having a threesome with another woman. Maybe you want to discuss your mutual friends’ bodies and imagine undressing them together. Or perhaps you can watch some porn together and talk about what turns you on.
Imagine exactly how you’d come across this other woman and how you’d seduce her together. Whisper these erotic thoughts to your partner while you fondle her breasts and tease her pussy with your fingers.
⚠️ Warning
Only attempt this with girls who have expressly communicated their bisexual interest. If you try this with a straight girl, or a super monogamous girl, it will backfire.
Domination fantasies
Playing around with the ideas of BDSM and power dynamics can be really hot. Some girls are really into bondage and slave scenarios in which you play the role of the dominant male and she plays the role of the submissive girl.
However, always make sure that you have a safe word so that you can stop if things get too intense for her.
🤘 Tip
Leather and whips can really spice up this fantasy and are easily bought online.
Stripper
Your girl most likely doesn’t have the guts to strip off in a public setting, but she’d be happy to play the role of your private stripper at home.
Treat her like a stripper by telling her how hot and sexy she is as she does a naughty dance to one of your favorite beats. Then, stuff a few fives down her panties as she gives you a lap dance.
Smack that booty as she bends down to touch the floor. You may even decide to slide her panties to the slide to finger her clit as she shoves her pussy in your face.
This is one fantasy that you’ll both love—she feels slutty and yet in control all at the same time.
Secretary and boss
This fantasy also plays with the concepts of power and dominance. You’re the boss and she’s your employee. What could normally get your fired for sexual harassment can only add to the taboo in the bedroom. Ask her to come into your office. Shut the door. Watch as she seductively twirls her glasses in her teeth while she stares up at you with her innocent big doe eyes.
You can’t help yourself but give her what she most desires—for you to bend her over your desk and fuck her like an animal before getting back to work.
Hotel maid and guest
Staying at a hotel is a relaxing experience. You’ve had a long day of travel and now you’re relaxing to turn on some TV and unwind. Suddenly the buzzer rings and you realize that a maid is outside your door. Is she lost? Has she come to clean your room?
You open the door in your nothing but your bathrobe hastily hastened over your boxers and bare chest. The sexy young maid can see your dick growing through the thin materials of your boxers. She comes right in.
What you do with her next is up to your choosing. Bend her over. Have your way with her all night long. Tie her up and lick her pussy until she begs you to stop. This fantasy just gets better and better.
Porn star
You think that guys only like porn? Lots of ladies watch porn, too, and find porn stars super hot. Their lack of inhibitions and lust for sex can be a real turn on.
What’s even better is if you set up your own video system so that you can film yourselves and watch it again later when you’re in need of a little extra stimulation.
💡 Remember
Never film someone without their consent. Make sure that your girl knows that you’re filming and is ok with it.
Masseuse
In earlier chapters we showed you how to use erotic massage techniques to stimulate your partner. These will definitely come in handy when acting out the masseuse role play.
Whether it’s you or your partner acting out the part of the sensual masseuse, this is a great excuse to give and receive a massage that culminates in naughty pleasure.
Other fantasies
These are just some of the fantasies that you can experiment with. Remember, there are thousand of fantasies—you are only limited by your own imagination!
Coming up: Preparation for oral sex
In the next chapter you’ll learn how to maintain your entire body to ensure that the women you’re seeing will keep coming back for more.
