Preparation for oral sex: Don’t be embarassed, be prepared

By Amy J. Fillmore – Author and blogger

Female prepared for oral sex
📕 This article is part of the popular book How to eat pussy like a Rockstar.

If you’re planning to have sex with a new partner, it’s just polite to consider your hygiene before the encounter. If you know the person well enough, perhaps you already know that body hair, or smells are actually a great turn on for them.

Otherwise, you should either ask them about their preferences in a nonchalant way, or go for a bit of preparation just in case. After all, first impressions are rather important, right? And if you want this first encounter to lead to more encounters, you have to look, smell and taste good.

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For Women

Trimming the beaver

A lot of men prefer women with trimmed, shaved, or waxed pussies for cunnilingus. A lot of hair can just end up getting in the way while you’re trying to get to work down there.

If your woman has a full bush and you’ve already tried eating her out a few times, but still can’t deal with it, you may want to politely tell her. Say something like, “Hey babe. I have to be honest, it’s kind of tough for me to eat you out with the hair. Would you mind trimming it for me? I really want to do the best job I can when I’m licking your pussy. I want to make you feel great.” If you frame this in a positive way, she may be more receptive to your suggestions.

In fact, if you’re in a pretty close relationship, you could try taking a bath together and shaving each other. This would require a fairly high level of trust (and motor skills) but it could be rather kinky!

Body hair

Some women, depending on their hair color, complexion, and shaving habits may have varying amounts of hair on their bodies. Remember, hair grows on women’s bodies just like it does on men’s bodies, so don’t be surprised to find hair in places you wouldn’t necessarily expect on a woman.

The key here is to play it cool. If your new sexual partner gets naked and she’s got pit hair, don’t freak out. Just try to go with it and above all, do not say anything rude or hurtful to her. Just because every woman isn’t as clean shaven as a prepubescent girl doesn’t mean that they aren’t good in the sack.

You could seriously be missing out on the hottest sex of your life if you walk away from someone who looks different than the type of person you typically sleep with. Live a little!

Some women also wax their assholes, but others do not. If you’re looking to get into some anal play, don’t be surprised if you find a fuzzy butthole back there. If this isn’t something you’re into, you might want to let your partner know that rimming would be made easier with a little shave.

You may also find that some women have leg or arm hair. Again, not really a reason to freak out in the moment, but it may be a conversation that comes up later if you decide to continue having casual sex, or continue your relationship.

You’ll probably also encounter women with nipple hair, facial hair, or stomach hair, but many shave, pluck or wax this away.

Stubble

As you know, there are some days when you just forget to shave. You’ve probably gone to work after a night out partying and realized that you have a 5 o’clock shadow. It’s the same with women. Unfortunately, shaving isn’t necessarily their number one priority.

So, even for women that do care a lot about trimming their body hair, you may catch them on a day when they simply forgot. Stubbly armpits, a fuzzy butthole, a little nipple hair—you never know, but again it is imperative to stay cool, calm and collected and act as if this is no big deal.

💡 Remember
If something legitimately turns you off, you don’t have to have sex. Just don’t be a dick about it.

Bodily Smells

If your girl hasn’t showered and you find her scent unattractive, you can easily suggest a mutual shower. This can be a huge turn on for both of you and you can scrub the odors right off of her as you fuck her from behind under relaxing pulse of your shower head.

Pussy smells

In the art of cunnilingus, you’ve learned that it’s extremely important to keep your women feeling sexy and relaxed. If her pussy smells and you tell her so, she is going to become decidedly unrelaxed and literal embodiment of un-sexiness.

So, if you encounter a pussy with a more pungent odor, don’t fear—this is manageable. First of all, check to make sure she’s clean. If she doesn’t have any goo going on down there, then she probably just has a naturally strong smell.

If, on the other hand, she has white smegma build up around her lips or under her clit hood, then she probably hasn’t bathed that day. Get that woman in the shower and lather her up!

⚠️ Warning
Vaginas are self cleaning organs, so you actually don’t need to use soap on her pussy. Just some warm water will easily do the trick and if any soap gets down there be sure to wash it off thoroughly.

An acquired taste

If you’re inexperienced with eating pussy, you may be intimidated by the flavor of a pussy. It is an acquired taste. If your lady looks relatively clean down there, then there’s really nothing to worry about.

Try it. Try it multiple times. And don’t lie and say something like, “You taste so good!” You can always compliment your partner on other things like the look of her pussy, or the way her body moves, etc.

If you don’t like it after multiple tries, you can always try some flavored lubes, a dental dam, or a mint in your mouth. There are options, so don’t insult her and don’t get bummed out. It may take some time for you to fully appreciate the glory that is the taste of a pussy.

Coming up: Oral sex warnings, common problems & health considerations

Knowledge is power and in the next chapter you’ll find out what you should be looking out for and how to play it safe.