Cunnilingus techniques: Mastering the art of oral pleasure

Now that you’ve spent a good 20 minutes on foreplay heating up your partner, it’s time to get down to business. The following techniques can easily be practiced with your mouth on your hand.

Go ahead and practice as you read along. Ok, don’t practice if you’re in a public space like on a bus, or in a library. Stop the bus! This man is totally making out with his hand while reading an eBook! Call the police!

Where to put your hands during oral

It’s easy to get so carried away thinking about how to lick your partner in just the right way that you use all of your concentration on your tongue and totally forget about the rest of your body.

However, oral sex isn’t entirely oral. It’s a physical act that centers around the oral pleasure that you’re creating for your partner, but that’s not all there is to it. If your girl wanted a stationary object poking at her clit, she’d use a vibrator.

So, use those hands. Slide your hands under her back and hinge them on her hips to draw her pussy in closer to your mouth. Cup her sumptuous booty and hold her close as you lick her with strong slow licks. Bring your hands up to her breasts and cup them as you’re going to town on her pussy.

If she wants more, use your hands to softly squeeze around the edges of her breasts. If she’s really into it, give her nipples soft squeezes and increase the intensity to the level that works for her.

Of course, you can also use your hands in the vicinity of her pussy. Use your hand to push down on her. Push down with your palm on her mons pubis for a grounding effect, or insert a finger or two into her vagina or anus (if she’s into that).

If you’re romantically inclined, hold hands! You can even hold on to her ankles or feet if her legs are raised. Just make sure that your hands aren’t stationary. That would be weird.

How to position her for oral sex

Cunnilingus Techniques

As you’re making your way down to her pussy, consider taking a few moments to savor some soft, slow kisses on her abdomen and thighs. Just before you crown the mons pubis with your face, take a moment to hover over her bush in anticipation.

Don’t take too long, though, as she might get weirded out and imagine you’re concerned with her smell.

Around the world

Kiss her through her panties to start off. Smell her. Inhale her unique aroma. Let yourself get aroused as well. Women can sense if you’re into it or not, so you better get into it quick. One moment of hesitation and it’s over. Slide off her panties with your fingers, or with your teeth if you’re feeling especially cheeky.

When you first begin to kiss her pussy, you’ll want to start out with slow, light kisses using only your lips (no tongue). Each act of your sexual encounter should be as tantalizing and teasing as possible.

Build up that heat in her pussy by keeping her wanting more. Use your hot breath to breathe on her inner thighs. Alternate between cool breath and kisses as you approach her pubic mound. Caress her pubic hair and kiss her mons pubis as you make your way towards her pussy.

Use a wide, flat tongue to lick from her mons pubis down her clitoral hood, stopping just short of the clitoris. Try to take a full 30 seconds to lick down this area excruciatingly slowly. Don’t be surprised if your partner starts rocking her hips up to meet your face in anticipation. This means she likes it.

Now, massage the sides of her lips with your fingertips and use your tongue to trace slowly up one side of her lip over the clitoral hood, and down the other side. Repeat this move again and again.

Licking the cream

The French Kiss

The Tongue Fuck

For this technique you will indeed fuck her pussy with your tongue. Stiffen your tongue slightly and slip your tongue into her vagina at different lengths. Start out with just the tip gently pulsing in and out of her wet pussy.

Then, if she seems to like this method, go a bit deeper and harder. You can also use this same type of tongue-poking method on her clitoris and clitoral hood.

Take turns moving from her clitoris to her pussy and listen to see how she responds to each area. If you notice that she responds better to either the clitoris or the vagina, center your efforts there.

The Vacuum Cleaner

The Clit Tube

The ABC’s

We’ve all heard this one before—trace the letters of the alphabet with your tongue on your partner’s pussy. But, don’t be lame about it. Tracing A, B, C, D, etc. is pretty damn boring.

Use some imagination and get her to guess the letters you’re tracing with your stiff tongue. Some women will prefer you to trace on and around their clitoris, whereas other women will enjoy tracing over the entire vulva.

The cool thing about the ABC’s is that if you do it right, it will keep your partner guessing. She really doesn’t know which way your hard little tongue tip is going to go next. This will keep her pleasantly surprised and literally aching for more.

The Sealed Lips

You know that maneuver you do with your dick where you slide your cock up and down your partner’s vaginal slit as a teaser right before you slide it in? Yes, that is a very hot move, but here’s a similar move you can do during oral with your tongue.

Hold your partner’s vaginal slit slightly together so that your tongue won’t be able to penetrate into her pussy at all. Now, use your tongue to run up and down the slit. As you partner starts to moan and beg for more, slowly release your grip on her vagina to open it more and more.

This is the point in which you can start to get more experimental with your tongue. Slide it in like in the french kiss maneuver, or flick it in and out as in the the tongue fuck technique.

The Nose

Why did the gods place your nose just above your mouth? For nose fucking of course! Use this technique to eat out your partner’s creaming pussy while also bopping her clitoris with your nose.

This will allow you to savor the juicy smells of her pussy, taste her cream and prod her to orgasm with your nose in just the right position.

Turning the Switch

Happy Hour

Imagine that your partner’s vulva is a clock. The very end of her pubic mound is 12:00 and her clitoris is 6:00. Now, take a slightly firm tongue and spiral it all the way from the top at 12:00 and back around to 6:00.

Start out slow and once you sense that she’s in the zone and close to orgasming, you’ll want to speed up just a bit and then continue doing it exactly in the same way until she blows.

Feel free to switch it up to a counter clockwise motion, but only in the beginning. Once she’s about to cum, you’ll need to steady yourself with the same motions.

The Rhythmic Clit Sucker

The Down and Dirty

Winter Breeze

If you’re an organized type, you may want to run to the fridge and grab an ice cube about halfway through your 20 minute foreplay session to let it start to melt. Then, by the time you get to the main course, the ice cube will be partially melted and ready to be used on your partner.

Grab the melty cube and tell your partner to stick out her tongue and give it a lick. Look her in the eyes and with a cocky smile tell her, “I’m going to make you squirm. You’re going to love it!”

Next, use the ice to trace down her neck to her nipples. Allow the cube to linger on each nipple as you passionately french kiss her mouth and nibble her neck. Now, bring the cube down her stomach and to her clitoris. Use the cube to trace down her clitoral hood, around her vulva and each lip.

Simply discard the ice cube in a nearby towel and now breathe cool breaths on her pussy. Alternate with hot breaths for a titillating experience.

The mouth vibrator

Good cop bad cop

Two in the pink

This is a true oldie, but a goodie. While you’re using any of the above pussy-licking techniques, you can add in a little bonus by inserting some fingers in your partner’s vagina. Make sure she’s very wet and if not add some lube. Spit will not cut the job.

Two in the pink (One in the stink)

And if you and your lady friend are rather adventurous, you can easily use that pinky finger to either caress or tickle her bum. If she agrees, feel free to lube that pinky up and stick it just inside her butthole.

If you can get your partner to cum while your pinky is in her ass, you’ll actually be able to feel the incredible strength of her asshole muscles contracting during orgasm, which will probably just make you all the more excited to try anal one day.

The G-Spot

The edge

Toys

Sometimes guys can get a bit apprehensive about toys. Hell, if you’re honest with yourself, you probably get a bit jealous. But, there is really no reason for this. There’s room in this relationship for you and a few toys.

A tiny vibrator, for example, can be really fun to use on your partner’s clitoris while you lick other parts of her vulva. You can alternatively use a dildo on her vagina, while you suck her clit. Or, if she’s into anal play, there are all sorts of toys for that area, such as anal beads.

If your partner is into toys, but you haven’t dabbled in that arena yet, be open to trying something new. Your partner will appreciate your fresh outlook and openness (and you might even have fun while you’re at it).

Masturbation

You can watch your partner masturbate. She can watch you masturbate. You can masturbate together. You can both masturbate in the 69 position in between licks. There are so many variations for masturbation and this practice is really underutilized.

A lot of guys feel like if their partner masturbates even for a few minutes during a sexual encounter, that means that they’re unneeded or not up to par. But, that’s just not the case.

If a girl has been masturbating since she was 11 or so, she’s had hours upon hours of experience with what exactly gets her off. A lot of girls can make themselves cum in 1-2 minutes—this is how skilled they are.

This is why many ladies like to touch themselves during foreplay, or during cool down periods in between oral to keep themselves right at the edge of cumming. It’s sometimes easier for women to play on that edge between pleasure and full-out orgasm, than men, who can really quickly bust a nut.

So, take the opportunity to either touch yourself, too, or watch her technique. Place your fingers over hers and feel the pulse she’s creating. You can use this insider knowledge the next time you touch her. Knowledge is power.

Just before she cums

Practice makes perfect

Hey, if at first you don’t succeed, you better eat some more pussies. Eating pussy isn’t like changing the oil on a car. It isn’t like completing a algebra problem. It’s more intangible. It’s elusive. It’s like learning to salsa. With practice, you’ll be a pro.

If you find that your mouth tires out easily during oral, don’t give up hope. You could choose to take breaks between eating, fingering and masturbating. You could also do some oral exercises everyday to strengthen your muscles. Above all, never give up.

Oral exercises

Coming up: Advanced techniques

In the next chapter you’ll learn even more ways to turn up the heat and level up your cunnilingus skills.